How would you consider moving your mom out of AL in Arizona to AL in Wisconsin? Funds are limited.

I sympathize with your situation but I think you need to leave well enough alone for now. All the planets in the universe would have to be perfectly aligned for your mom to pull this off. It would be a challenge even if she had a good caregiver accompany her.

After my mom died I made a 12 hour drive with my dad who was 89 with dementia to get him in a place near me. We pulled it off but it was a bear.

Yes she wants to move here. She is not diagnosed with dementia, I think she has the beginnings of it. She is fully with it. She’s incontinent to the point where she just needs to wear depends and she sometimes has an accident if she can’t get to the bathroom. She uses a walker. Driving her here for a 3 to 4 Day Rd. trip is not advisable. She has a bad back, and takes narcotics for her back pain. Plane is the only option. But I am concerned about is I am 65 myself, and the risk for me to get on a plane, and stay in a hotel, and And fly back, puts us all at risk as well. If I have to fly out there we’re talking about 3 to 4 days of hotel room ,car rental ,airplane fares so a bit over $1000-$1500 for that in itself. I am looking at the lowest risk possible and my thought is to have her fly here. I think she’s capable. I could possibly fly her to Chicago and pick her up in Chicago and drive the four hours home, I think that would be a nonstop possibly. But any case my biggest concern is her personal items She’s very attached to them, and I’m not sure how she’s going to take it , to leave them behind. If I don’t leave them behind I will have to find a way to get them here. That is one of the questions I’m asking, do I leave everything behind and she starts a new or do we put her on the plane, and ship her stuff out on a mover after. I know what my mother will say, she’ll want to bring it, remember the rocks. I would say she has approximately three years of money left. Making this move is going to put a dent in that. I know it doesn’t sound like a lot but I am guesstimating it’s going to be five to $6000. And then plus the cost to move her items.

IF your mother wants to move....I just ask. Are you seriously going to have her fly across the country alone? At her age? With her heath problems? Your profile says mobility problems, incontinence, hearing loss. I think that’s a very bad idea. The airport doesn’t really provide personal care attendants. They can provide a wheelchair and someone to push it but really every airport is different and some really do a piss poor job at assisted elderly & disabled travelers.

Alva asks the key question: what is your mother's opinion about this move?

Does your mother WANT to make this move? None of that is worth moving. It would have to be left behind. I doubt your Mom could fly alone if there is dementia or severe disability. If she truly wants to make this move, I think you must go there, get a rental, have it packed with her things, and drive her back. Road trip with Mom. Oh dear, oh my. You will want, before you do this, if Mom is on any medicaid, to consider this carefully as it varies state to state and any move will change medicaid, stop it in current state and restart in another. Hopefully that isn't even being used or in the current situation.
This move then would cost you the price of having workers pack up all and you would be driving a small uhaul home with Mom.
Again, start with whether Mom is WILLING TO MOVE at all. And if so, no rocks.