My mother has been in a NH for past two weeks...She was in a hospital, for 6 days, before being transferred.
She has a terminal liver cancer...
My mother called me before 7 AM...I told her that I have to get training for caregiving next week at her NH...Then she will go back to her apartment with I as her caregiver...
She sounded upset...Upset that she is not going back to her apartment today...
My mother told me that she is going to die today...She stated that the funeral home people will come and get her at NH...She said that she left a note for the funeral home people...She also stated that it is hard for her to breathe...She is using the oxygen machine at NH...She is also in bed all the day long...
I got upset myself and asked her what she is talking about...She would not answer...The conversation ended...
For the record, she does not know the phone number for the funeral home...It is not on her cell phone...
I guess a very ill person, like my mother, could say some strange things at times...
I have not called the social worker about this yet...I don't know if it is necessary for me to call her about this...
I am very upset about my mother's phone call this morning...
Thanks for reading...
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I realize that you are upset. Your mom is upset too. Discuss the details with the nursing home.
Does the NH believe it would be in your mom’s best interest to be receiving care from their staff instead of home care?
Would you consider having hospice step in? They will provide comfort care for her until the end of her life.
I am so sorry that you are struggling with this. It’s very hard.
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I think you should call the NH and get hold of either the Head Nurse or the social worker and tell them that your mother sounds like she is upset, worried and possibly having delusions.
Is your mother on Hospice at this time? It sounds as though she needs some meds for agitation.
I’m so sorry for you, and for her too. If she does die today, it won’t be because you didn’t take her home. Keep your feet on the ground, even though it’s messing with your heart and your head. Love, Margaret