Mom has a UTI and refuses treatment. Any advice?

Linda, are you still with us?

This is a situation in which you don't accept the refusal of the sick person to get treatment. You simply call 911; you don't ask permission to do that.

****update*** Sorry for delay..been crazy. I took mom to ER and she was given an antibiotic and kept over night. Expecting to talk to the doctor in the morning. Thank you to all who assisted me with this matter. Never knew a UTI was so serious.

She shouldn't need hospitalization for a UTI unless it has become septic, which can be life threatening. Diagnosis is very important and treatment with antibiotics. Has she seen her doc? The test should be done by culture so proper antibiotic is prescribed.

She needs an antibiotic, meticulous bottom hygiene, and frequent fluids. If she is having "cramping pain" the doctor can prescribe pyridium,

My uncle developed sepsis with an infection and almost died.

UTI’s are very serious for the elderly. She needs to see a doctor immediately or go to the ER.

She needs to go to the ER now. UTIs in the elderly can be serious. Your Mom is already showing signs its serious with her being weak and probably confusion. She will probably need antibiotics thru an IV. Make sure they catherize her to get all the urine out of her bladder. That they do a culture to make sure the correct antibiotic is being used. Some have penicillin in them so if she is sensitive to it or allergic make them aware of this.

To prevent them in the future, put her on a probiotic and cranberry capsules. Make sure she completely voids. That she cleans herself well, if she can't u need to. Plenty of water. Alva has a product she swears by. She will be chiming in.

Call 9ll and have her transported by ambulance to the hospital. When she was diagnosed did they give her medication then and there? Is she taking it? A person this elderly with a UTI is no longer in control of what should or should not be done. It causes serious mental changes.
You might, given covid and the overwhelmed conditions in hospital, consider an emergency call to care provider or doctor this a.m. to say she will be on her way to ER unless they can think of another way.

I am a believer in D- Mannose. Cheap on amazon; I use Source Natural, taken once a day. Works like cranberry but much more strongly and not acidic. Keeps bacteria from adhering to the bladder wall. If you break open capsule or use the powder no fear of the big size of the capsules. I was getting more than four UTI a year and they were moving up into the kidney. Was getting threatened with prophylactic cipro and you know how they now hate cipro. I haven't had a UTI in more than a decade. As an old retired RN I am basically a western medicine gal who doesn't like supplements and vitamins at all, except THIS supplement. I swear by it. Have recommended now to a total of 6 people with four having results like I did and two not. Worth a try. Tasteless sprinkled on food.

Had this happen 2 weeks ago a head nurse told me to give wife 2 Alka-Seltzer and would be gone in 24 hours... You an Google this for pros and cons but very inexpensive and did work.

UTI's are very common with potentially deadly outcome. If your mother is dealing with a dementia it will exacerbate her symptoms, likely dramatically. Yes, to cranberry juice... even watered down. It's helps keep the bacteria from sticking to the wall of the bladder. If the infection has spread systemically, you'll have a very sick person shortly... This is when things get challenging, when the immune system starts to tank. There are some real soul searching aspects to caregiving to a beloved one, we love life and do everything we can to sustain it. However, the writing is on the wall, for all of us. Compassion for our beloved, and compassion for ourselves is the lesson.