Hypothetical question....what are the pros and cons of pulling a LO from a facility and setting them up with 24 hour care in a private home?

Great question! I wish I had done more real-life research before deciding on home care for my parents with the agency I chose.

Probably the biggest "con" I find, which kind of covers all of the individual cons, is that even when you hire an agency, you still end up providing and directing a lot of the care. I thought that with hiring an agency, the agency was now filling in for me and managing my parents' care. Nope. Now I have to supervise the agency and individual caregivers as well as provide care for parents.

This might be different for you if your LO is able and willing to manage the agency/caregivers and tell them what needs to be done and make sure it's done. But, my parents were never agreeable to hiring help, so I had to "force" it on them and be the on-going boss for the agency.

If you like being a manager, are skilled at it, and have the time for it, your stress with in-home care may be reduced. I, however, am not a skilled manager.

One of my biggest frustrations with our agency is "no shows." Sometimes caregivers don't show and don't even call to tell you they aren't coming. If your LO isn't capable and willing to make a phone call to you and/or the agency, you're not going to know that they are without care. You'll need to find an agency that somehow monitors that each caregiver is in the home for each scheduled shift. If agency doesn't do that, YOU will need to check in by phone, video, or in-person for EACH shift to make sure someone is there. Maybe not a big deal if this is your only task. But chances are, this isn't your only task for your loved one, and you also have things you want/need to do for your own life.

You'll need to have a plan in place for who provides the care when there is a "no-show." Are you willing and able to drop anything and everything when there are no-shows, so that you can provide the care for the shift?

And, no-shows are not always due to irresponsible caregivers. Sometimes caregivers schedule off days or weeks in advance, and the agency has a "computer glitch" and no one gets scheduled to cover the shift. Or, a caregiver calls in sick, and the agency can't find someone to cover the shift on short notice. Whatever the reason is for the no-show, YOU are the one who now has to make sure the shift is covered.

Sometimes, the agency will send someone, who is not real skilled, just so they can cover the shift. Be prepared to get a lot of phone calls during this shift, or to find that important things weren't done, such as coumadin not being given.

Who's going to provide the training for the things that are specific to your loved one and their home? Things like "the basement door needs to be kept locked so Mom doesn't try to go down to do the wash" and "the key to the basement so you can do the wash is on the 2nd shelf in the hall closet." Are you going to take the time to write a training manual and update it with any changes? Can you rely on each caregiver to read it, follow it, and keep up with changes/additions? Or, is the agency training the caregivers on specifics for your loved one? Is the agency making sure the caregivers are doing these tasks? How are they monitoring the caregivers? Most likely, they are just asking you if the caregivers are doing OK, which means you have to monitor the caregivers.

These are only a few of the cons I ran into with in-home care. I don't have room to write about problems with meal prep, grocery shopping, managing the mail, monitoring time sheets, doctors appointments, toilet clogs, trash removal, lawn care, snow removal, transportation, TV remote malfunction, etc.

As far as "pros," there are some. Mom and dad are less confused in their own home, and their moods are more stable. Plus, I don't have to go through the stress -- yet -- of forcing them into assisted living and hearing them complain, yell, and cry at each visit.

Would I hire in-home care again instead of placing them in assisted living? Probably not.

I have a few questions. If your loved one needs pain medication in the facility she will also need pain medication at home, meaning lots of sleeping in both places, right? You can't visit right now due to Covid, but loved one is sleeping and not able to visit anyway. Once the vaccines are rolled out soon, indoor visits should resume.

Who is going to cook the 3 hot meals a day at home that the facility served? What about laundry and bed linens? Is the bathroom and shower at home handicap accessible including bars and shower chair?

What about the doctor who came into the facility and won't come to the house. How will loved one get back and forth to doctor appointments? How about all the medication changes.......will they be picked up by a family member at the pharmacy after work?

A facility is a village specifically designed for safety and one stop shopping for the elder. A home is not. There are many considerations to think about before removing a loved one from managed care and taking them home. Just the aggravation of wondering if the carers will show up and what is Plan B if they don't is something to think about. Then payroll and taxes and all that fun stuff, not to mention liability insurance and workmans comp? I have no idea but you'd have to look into it since we live in a sue happy society, especially for people where money is no object. It's a lot to worry about for the privilege of a few visits a week, that your loved one may not even be aware of.

Whatever you decide to do, just go into it with eyes wide open. Good luck!

Frazzled, home health aides are not allowed to administer medication. They can only "remind" the patient that it be taken.

I see that issue as a huge stumbling block.

Has your loved one been seen by a pain management doctor?

My best friend's mom (she is 100!) still lives in her own apartment with live in aides provided by Medicaid (this is in NYC).

It works out okay except that this fragile old lady must be taken out for doctor, dentist, audiology, podiatry and optical visits. By contrast, my mom, in a nursing home, had these services come to her.

My friend is constantly frazzled over her mother's anxiety, agitation and depression. I suggested a geriatric psychiatrist, but very hard to find one that accepts Medicaid and it would mean a long cab ride. Whereas my mom had a team of behavioral health folks who were able to see her at different times of the day, talk with her other providers...

This dear lady is constantly worried about breaking religious laws because she doesn't remember if it is the sabbath or a holiday. If she were in a facility, she would have others around her celebrating.

And she doesnt "know" that she is in her own home.

What is the cognitive condition of the LO? Being cloistered in a home is a sterile social environment. The staff would also become the companions, so this would need to be considered when hiring.

My very first thought is making sure someone actually shows up for 24 hours of care. Would this be two 12 hr shifts or three 8 hr shifts? How often would loved one see the same people? What is the plan if there is a gap of any kind such as a sick call or a no show? There needs to be backup if loved one cannot be alone for any length of time. Will the overnight person be permitted to sleep, or will they be expected to stay awake all night - just in case. I do know someone who had an overnight caregiver who *expected * to sleep during the shift. You would need to clear this up ahead of time. Would these people be your employees or would be hire through an agency (who would then handle payroll, etc). Who is responsible if caregiver gets hurt while in the private home? I'm sure there is a lot more. This is off the top of my head.

First thing to come to mind is cancellations/delays/no-shows.

I met a lady with CP with declining function, vertually a quadriplegic. She lived in a private house, a houseshare with others. She was cognitively able to arrange all her own care, book wheelchair taxis etc. She had a voice activated phone system. For no-shows, she would be left in bed, or wheelchair, often dirty & unfed & had to call her usual agency then backup agencies for assistance. She was holding on to her independentce very tightly but at the cost of irregular care, skipped meals, missed appointments & huge frustration. She said once she needed 2 X assist, she would need to move into a NH.

While her physical condition was worsening, it was very slowly & mentally she could arrange everything for herself.

Some elders declining in mobility only may cope with that setup but if declining cognitively as well... especially with a progresive condition like dementia I just can't see it working for long - unless there was a VERY dedicated & organised caretaker/care manager.

Don’t do it!

Basically the answer is "nothing". Given an unending amount of money inpouring, there would BE no pros nor cons. Which of us would not wish, unending money not being an issue, to provide this care/have this care?
But hypothetical it is and will remain, because unending amounts of money is a rare thing in this world. Of course we are in Covid-19 times now. And 24/7 caregivers will be coming and going, and there is exposure more or less to the virus. That aside, 24/7 care with unending amounts of money still seems a good option, if option it is.
And again, money, not an issue?
Are you certain?
Think of the cost of 24/7 care. Figure it out by the week, by the month, by the year.
Bill Gates may not be in trouble. For the rest of us? I suspect we may be.
Hypothetically.

frazzledteacher, when my Dad was in a facility, I never even gave it a thought of pulling him out to live at home. In my Dad's situation, he LOVED the facility. Loved being around people from his era, loved the food, and liked the idea that was always a nurse on duty :)

At the facility Dad did have is own private Agency 1st shift caregiver, who had been with him even when he lived at home. So there was a routine, he would see her smiling face when she arrived to work at 7 a.m. and would leave around 1pm. The facility first checked with the Agency to make sure the Agency and the caregiver were up-to-date with whatever requirements.

Now, prior Dad did live at his home and had 3 shifts of caregivers from an Agency. The 3rd shift caregiver the Agency required her to be awake the whole time to listen in case Dad was getting up so she could help him. No complaints about the Agency. The cost was $20k per month. Glad Dad saved for that "rainy day".

Now, the above was a few years ago, long before the covid-19 breakout which had thrown a huge wrench into everything. Even with vaccine, there will be the same percentage of people not wanting the vaccine, similar to those not wanting the flu shot. Thus, covid-19 could be around until 2022. After studying up on the 1918-1920 pandemic, the covid-19 is running parallel. History is repeating itself.

Make a list of everything done for your loved one in the care facility. Make sure you include every thing, no matter how small.
Every single thing on the list would have to be done at home.
No doubt some of the care on your list cannot be provided by ONE agency and supplemental help is needed or you will need to provide it yourself.
Now make a list of all the adaptive equipment the home uses to care for your loved one. Do you have room for it? Can you change the home to accommodate for it?
These are two big questions yo ask yourself.
I believe with all my heart that my loved one who always says she wants to go home, would regret it after experiencing the level of care she is now accustomed to.