My father, early to mid Alzheimer's in AL, challenges my POA status constantly believing he can control his affairs. Any advice?

I would talk to a lawyer IMMEDIATELY.

You need to involve the social worker at the facility to inform her/him thay the lady friend is meddling in dad's financials.

I would make sure that dad has a good eldercare attorney who can advise about guradianship.

As long as you have that 'dementia' dx, anything dad does will not be recognized as legal--and this woman would probably be shut down completely if her long term goals are to fleece dad.

Make SURE that legally, you have POA and let the chips fall where they may. Does this woman have family? Maybe a little 'chat' with them, calmly and not in a confrontational manner will help you to have a small support system. If they know she's being inappropriate, perhaps they can help you. Just a thought.

Guardianship--I have zero knowledge of that, but I suspect it's expensive and fairly difficult to move dad's status from being under a POA and being totally 'controlled'.

Better act quickly, nip this in the bud.

If this woman simply wants a friend, no harm in that. It's been a lonely, long shutdown for these folks.

You say he has mid AD. Has that been documented on his medical records? If he is mid stage, he does not have the faculties to make rational decisions. Therefore he won't be able to change or revoke the POA he establish. If, however, he is in AL and still demonstrates the ability to make rational decisions, he may well be able to change his documents.

Also if he is in AL, he can still probably make his own decision and allow his “friend” in his room. If he is in MC and she has moved into his room, as his POA, I would raise holy hell with the facility. In either case has the facility been made aware of her influence on him?

A POA is willingly given by a person who is competent to give a POA. So your Dad is in danger. My brother was already diagnosed with probably early Lewy's Dementia when he made me his POA and Trustee of his Trust. He only had to understand fully what he was doing when we went to his Lawyer, who thoroughly interviewed him in his wishes, and in the dangers to him in what he was doing. So if your Dad can go to this woman's lawyer with her, and say "My daughter is currently my POA and I wish to replace her with my friend, who is living with me and helping me with all my care", and he comes across in interview as competent to make this re-assignment of POA, he will be allowed to do so under the law.
Your only option then would be to claim Dad is NOT competent and to file for guardianship. If Dad fights guardianship (and a lawyer will be provided for him to do so) then you would likely lose if he is at all competent.
So ask me if I am worried? Yes, if Dad is at all competent to say "I am changing POA to __________, who is now living with me and caring for me, and that is my wish.
How competent is your Dad. Would he pass an interview? Has he said he wants this woman to be his POA? Is she currently a paid caregiver, or your Dad's companion now? All of this matters. If a paid caregiver you can get her moved out or you can move Dad to care, away from her. If she is a companion, you may be in trouble/your Dad may be, is my personal opinion. I would go to the Lawyer who helped with the POA originally sooner rather than later, and tell everything you just told us.

You need to make the Administration aware of this. She is praying on a man who has been diagnosed with a Dementia. He is not competent to have him or her make decisions for him. I may find out who this lawyer is and make a call or write a letter explaining Dad is not competent. I would wonder about this woman's competency. Not sure if you have the ability to ask that she be removed from his unit and banned from seeing him but u can try.

The only thing you could do is get guardianship. This will give you full control. You can use Dads money but it is expensive. Or, when things open up again, transfer Dad out of that Al.

This is really tricky. If his dementia is early to mid, he may be able to convince a lawyer that he is legally competent to grant a fresh POA to the lady. Search ‘showtiming’ on the site. That leaves you with the problem of challenging the new POA and proving that he was in fact not competent at that moment in time.

You could consider writing to the lady’s lawyer to state that there is a conflict of interest between her interests and his interests, and that he should not be acting for both of them. That might turn the lawyer off, and would certainly be helpful in any litigation. Certainly inform the AL administration of your concerns. Perhaps find out if you can use your POA now to transfer assets into a trust fund – of course check this with a lawyer, and the person who prepared the original POA could be good.

I hope that Garden Artist will chime in on this. Scams of elderly men are a real problem to deal with, particularly if sex is involved – and she has already ‘moved in with him’.

Please ask questions only once; it makes it difficult to provide answers when they are spread out more. Again, either your father is competent or he is not. A court will often error on the side of the elder in guardianship hearings, but guardianship may be needed here. I would start a careful diary now. A composition book with no tear outs, in ink, only strike outs. There are admissible in court.

Just a heads up, this question has been asked twice.

https://www.agingcare.com/questions/elderly-father-with-diagnosed-mild-to-mid-alzheimers-in-retirement-home-in-a-relationship-with-fello-464026.htm

Boy, that's a tough one. Get the doctors to do an assessment at once. You'll need it no matter what. They don't have to visit him there, you can bring him to the doctors office to have him take the test.

You need to be proactive, not reactive in this. I agree that if you can find out the name of the lady's attorney, a firm letter to him/her that this woman is behaving in a predatory manner toward a vulnerable adult should shut down any assistance he's giving in the matter. If your dad had an attorney, he, too, should be contacted to send a strongly-worded letter to both the woman and her attorney in regard to her actions. She also needs to be told in no uncertain terms to get out of his unit.

You should also notify the facility, as they probably don't want trouble either. They can't completely interfere with what they're doing, but they may be able to contact her family and also tell them what's up and that she's in danger of being kicked out if this persists.

Get on this, and don't wait until you find out Dad has made a new POA with the woman in charge.