I was so frustrated by my mother that I took a coffee mug and threw it as hard as I could against a brick wall outside. The damn thing bounced off with only a chip. It was unbelievable. The good news is I started to laugh so hard that the tension left me and I returned to the house feeling better. For awhile at least. 🙄😏
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Wishing you the best, and hoping that you are going to start taking care of yourself, so you can continue on this journey with your mom.
What are you trying to cope with?
Listening to YouTube for drugstore makeup & skincare tutorials was fun. Would take mom with me to Walgreens. She looked at her own stuff (toys & socks) & I’d pick out my stuff. Sometimes she’d sit in the car and wait for me. It may not work if mom is home bound to go shopping in person. Target & Walmart have free delivery if you buy $35 of stuff.
Also listened to alternative (angry) music I liked in high school - The Clash, The Sex Pistols, X, The Smiths. Would sing along.
Wouldn’t you know it, the first plate went right through the wall and stuck there like a throwing star. I was shocked, then said to heck with it and threw a few more. Some bounced off and exploded, some stuck in the wall. In the end I cleaned up the satisfying mess and looked up how to repair drywall and bought the supplies.
Right when I was going to fix it, mom had an emergency so I was dealing with ER stuff instead. Ended up telling the real estate agents so sorry, I had an accident with some furniture...hahahahahaha....they said nothing....lol
I can’t throw plates every day so I try to exercise a lot.
courage! hugs!!
i totally understand you, and
what you write about siblings.
i truly can’t understand how it’s possible for siblings not to say thank you.
my conclusion, is that i never realized values/ethics/morals can be so different from sibling to sibling.
and not bothering to say thank you.
it’s almost like some siblings want us to be angry, frustrated, ignored...
maybe some of them even want our lives to be destroyed. maybe some take pleasure in the hard times caregivers have. i think it’s possible.
they might even be happy they’re creating anger, resentment, frustration...
——these are all negative emotions that the caregiver then carries around.
don’t let these people “win”.
succeed! be happy! smile!! :) try to find good solutions, so your life blossoms. don’t let them “win”.