Now that her last sibling has passed (they lived in same town) and her own health failing, mom has decided it would be a good idea to move near one of her kids. We all live significantly far from her current location and in different parts of the country. She's never traveled to see any of us where we live and she doesn't want to now due to covid. So we are putting together info packets on our locations to help her decide where she'd like to move. What things/info should be included other than general area info, weather, cost of living comparison to where she is now, Healthcare options nearby, housing options....?
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Is there a reason to hurry here? Because I am getting covid vaccine the 28th. Once she has this and family does she could conceivably travel.
Cost of living for Assisted Living, which will come, varies amazingly. I would suggest everyone look at their own area. What my brother got for 4,095 in Southern California (Palm Springs) was costing ONE HALF of what it would cost in the Bay Area of San Francisco where I live.
So there are a lot of factors and how wise you are to try to begin slowly to consider all of them you can think of.
She has had major medical issues in the last 6 months which landed her in ICU. She does not take care of herself or follow dr ordered directions as she thinks she knows better and they are just out to get her money. She's non compliant about many things because no one is there to keep her on track.
From across the country for the past 6 months I have been setting up all of her transportation and personal care needs.
She is eligible for the covid vaccine as of this week in her state. We are working out a schedule for transportation for her to achieve this.
However, myself and my siblings and family that live with us, will not be eligible in our states for the foreseeable future (last rung on the ladder for all of us). Even if we were to get it soon, she would NOT travel to see us as this isn't a covid thing, she just doesn't travel to see us, period. All decisions will need to be made via given information to her.
The number, affordability and quality and close-by IL, AL and NHs should also be considered.
Elder transportation options. Some communities have vans and where Uber and Lyft options are good.
Wherever she goes, I would say it ought to be the place closest to or most convenient for whoever has durable power of attorney. In my opinion, it is a bad idea for anyone taking on the responsibility of caregiving without having authority.