My beautiful grandma is almost 98, she has advanced heart failure and recently fluid built up on one lung. She is stable at home and on oxygen which keeps her sats above 90.
Generally she likes to sleep now, lost all mobility. When she was in hospital she just slept and refused food, we were told 1 to 2 weeks would be it. Brought her home yesterday and she has started to eat 3 meals and talk. However how long can she or have others lasted on oxygen?
She is also slightly disorientated and although in general better spirits gets confused where she is. I know she is end of life but I can't accept we may just have 1 week with her. Guess I'm looking for hope :(
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The best you can hope for is for the rest of her life to be painfree and pleasant.
That's nice that she has rallied and is eating and talking. Enjoy it. At her advanced age, it could change at any time. She's had a very long life so hope for an easy ending and remember that she has been loved and lived much longer than the average person. Find some way to peace with thoughts like those.
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At this point, each person is different than the next. Daddy lived for 2 weeks on 'full oxygen' but grandma lived only a couple of days.
I'd just offer her the foods she likes, give her plenty of love and time together if that is what she wants. She's lost all mobility---do you really want her to live like this much more than a week, if even that?
We have to accept that a person's timeline is theirs, and therefore different than another person's.
I wish you peace and calm and a gentle end for grandma. She is lucky to be so loved.