I'am a older male in 80's have had incontinence for a long time the diapers help a lot but sometimes have bowel accident just can't make it.My wife is a big supporter and helps with everything.I also have autism.
Yes my mother did this & eventually starting having bm’s also in the depends with her dementia. I recommend talking to your doctor about hospice. All pull ups & more are covered by Medicare this way. It’s free. Dementia is a permanent condition which will qualify him for hospice. Hospice is not just for end of life. It is also for long term & can be cancelled & reinstated for things such as skin cancer radiology or other life sustaining care. The doctor can recommend the best local hospice organizations & it’s a great relief to have their extra care in place. Not only do they provide medical supplies & incontinence care but they will stay with your dad on a regular schedule & it will give you a break to go do things. Also you won’t need to take him to a hospital if there’s an emergency, they will give comfort in your home. It’s been wonderful for us.
Sadly that is one of the many symptoms of dementia. The brain is no longer able to tell his body to hold it until he gets to the bathroom. My husband(who had vascular dementia)had a horrible time with incontinence. Since I was his 24/7 caregiver at the time, I decided to have a supra pubic catheter put in him, as I just couldn't continue on like we were going. For us, it was a Godsend. I only had to empty his catheter bag once in the morning and again in the evening. And a nurse would come every 4-6 weeks to change it out.
There are many different medications to try and help with incontinence, but none of them were helpful with my husband. We also had his urologist try putting botox in his bladder, as that sometimes can help as well, but again, it didn't help my husband, and so his Dr and I decided to do the supra pubic catheter.
It's a tough situation for sure. I certainly feel for you. But there are some answers out there. Please make an appointment with his urologist, to discuss your options. Best wishes.
As a person declines they have no control over where and when they urinate. The next that will follow will be bowel incontinence. You can try to get him to go to the bathroom by taking him about every 2 hours. If he does not have to go ask him to try. If that does not work bring him back to the bathroom in another half hours or so. If he is sitting for a while just getting up might help trigger the urge to urinate. But even if he uses the bathroom he may not be fully emptying his bladder and he may go again in a little while. You can try a less costly brand. No matter the brand they have to be changed when they become soiled. This is all part of the decline that you will be experiencing. If he is a Veteran it might be possible to get the supplies through the VA.
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There are many different medications to try and help with incontinence, but none of them were helpful with my husband. We also had his urologist try putting botox in his bladder, as that sometimes can help as well, but again, it didn't help my husband, and so his Dr and I decided to do the supra pubic catheter.
It's a tough situation for sure. I certainly feel for you. But there are some answers out there. Please make an appointment with his urologist, to discuss your options. Best wishes.
You can try to get him to go to the bathroom by taking him about every 2 hours. If he does not have to go ask him to try. If that does not work bring him back to the bathroom in another half hours or so.
If he is sitting for a while just getting up might help trigger the urge to urinate. But even if he uses the bathroom he may not be fully emptying his bladder and he may go again in a little while.
You can try a less costly brand. No matter the brand they have to be changed when they become soiled.
This is all part of the decline that you will be experiencing.
If he is a Veteran it might be possible to get the supplies through the VA.