Mom is going to run out of money in about a year at the current prices of ALF and memory care.
My sisters and I work, so are not free during the day.
We don’t know where to start with this and prefer, for a number of reasons, mostly cost, to find a private home (hers was sold years ago).
Any suggestions? My sisters live in NH.
Thanks!!!
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Look into the Board & Cares in your area, although here in Colorado, they are just as expensive as regular Assisted Living facilities.
Good luck!
Both are incredibly expensive. The Adult Group has outings and activities--they hire college students to do a one-on-one daily CG routine. The residents are quite high functioning.
The MC facility basically provides food and shelter. It's for people of advanced cases of dementia, who, honestly, wouldn't KNOW if they were playing Bingo or cards or watching old movies or playing trivia. They are so far gone in their dementia they don't usually even know their own names.
I cannot imagine how much it would cost to have your LO 'live in' with someone who was not family.
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I wish you good luck. This is a great solution to explore first.
These are houses that have been converted to care homes. They have a smaller number of residents and they, in my area at least, do care from AL to hospice.
They are much cheaper than a regular AL facility, they have a better patient to caregiver ratio and they are more homey. The trade off is that they do not have the activities and outings that a larger, more expensive facility has.
If your mom utilizes the activities where she is currently, then one of these types of facilities would not be the best fit.
You really do need to keep her activities in mind before any change is made. You never know what will be in a year, so do what is best for her today.
Meanwhile do the leg work and find what is available in your area and what they cost. You will want several options because you never know if a bed will be available.
I would recommend that you do not put your mom in someone's house. That leaves her vulnerable to so many issues and it leaves you no recourse. You want a licensed, insured facility that is held accountable for their actions and the wellbeing of their residents.
Contact your local area on aging and they can provide you with resources to find board and care facilities.
My advice to you would be to hire for two caregivers. One who will stay during the week, and one who will do week-ends. You could advertise on a homecare site that you're looking for a home to take your mother in. I've been in this line of work near to 25 years and I have never heard of people looking to move their elder into the caregiver's house. I imagine that will cost a fortune.
Where does your mom live now? Is she in assisted living? If so then when her money runs out she will go on Medicaid. Sometimes Medicaid will pay for some assisted living facilities, but they normally don't and the elder gets placed in a nursing home.