Need ideas on giving mom a bath in her shower to wash her private areas. Any suggestions?

A few options.

Place a warm soaking wet towel folded up on the bench.

Buy a bench with holes and spray up through the holes.

If possible have mum hang onto hand holds and spray her bottom.

Get a bidet seat for the toilet.

Dear Texas,
I totally get where you are at. I'm really close to my momma and we often joke about how she wiped my bum when I was a baby and now i'm wiping hers. I'm sure at first, a couple of years ago it might've been uncomfortable for both of us, but now it's just like cleaning between her toes! No big deal. Now my Mom had to go to a rehab center 2 years ago after hip replacement, and all "privacy" went out the window. So she's okay with it. Recently she had a fall, was in hospital with a pad under her and the nurses taught me how to use the bedpan and change both her "pull ups" and pad on the bed. Now because she has digestive issues, I don't allow her to wipe her bum when I'm home to keep things sterile. My mom has a large shower with a wide chair that sits two legs in and two legs out. She sits down, facing me then turns towards the shower handles, then puts her feet in the shower while sitting. The caregivers do this as well with her. There are safety handles vertical along the shower and one horizontal under the shower head. We installed a shower head on a long "hose" and I stand behind her. When I'm done with her back, arms, armpits, chest, legs then she stands up. I give her the wash cloth soaped up and she cleans her pubic area and urinary area. I then use the cloth and wipe her bum going front to back. If I can see any visible poo, I'll use a medicated wipe (like a baby wipe we use after she poops on the toilet) first, then wash with soap and water. If your Mom is not able to stand long enough then I'd suggest having her lay on her side on the bed, with a pad under her use a bed pan with soap and water. It's a pain, but "diaper rash" or UTI can be very painful. I hope this helps. You can do it. Just think of all she did for you when you were young and vunerable. Remind her that it is a priviledge to care for her.

I had a shower put in for mom and they put a nice grab bar horizonally waist high on the wall. I had a hand held shower head so I would have her stand holding onto the bar with legs apart. I would wash her back end and crevice with soap and water. When I rinsed I would spray her private area with warm water. I never used soap on the private area. It can cause UTIs if soap gets up the urethra. In between baths, I used Huggie baby wipes to clean Mom well after toileting. They are big and thick. I could not bring myself to touch her private area. Had her in my home for 20months and she never had a UTI. She did when she was at the AL.

What JoAnn said.

If your mother isn't able to stand and hold for long enough, there are also shower-proof commodes. You remove the bucket before the person sits down, then you have unrestricted access to the relevant areas which you can wash with the shower head. Dignified it isn't, but boy can you be thorough!

Hi there. I use a removable shower head, have her hold onto the bar while I hold her with my strong hand. I use my left to clean her downtown. What helps is I use a sponge that is attached to a plastic handle (kind that you use to clean drinking glasses.) Takes out the weird factor of having to use my hand.

Does the shower have grab bars? If yes, you can't get the wash cloth ready, stand mom up and give her bottom a thorough cleaning, rinse and possibly repeat the 1st couple of times.

If no grab bars, get a cheap aluminum walker and have her hold on to that while you do the above.

Putting a soapy, soaked hand towel for her to sit on while other parts are being washed can loosen things up and help make the process quicker when she is standing.

You can also give her a big hug and have her lean into you while you reach around and wash.

No matter what, always give a thorough rinse.

You can hire a bath aid to teach you how to accomplish this and to ensure that you have all the tools you need to make the bathing process easier.

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If she doesn't want you to do it, (when she get up from the chair in the shower) I would take liquid soap and poor some down the back close to her butt and some in the front area close to public area. Oh look mom you need to clean there otherwise the soap will irritate you. This forces her to clean closer in the area. If this does work, you're going to force it on her (gently). Maybe she smell so bad because she is not cleaning well after toilet visits. Maybe again you will have to do this do. She will struggle at first, but soon she will forget. My husband did this for his mom.
Good Luck.

I understand this issue completely and in my case, it is absolutely mandatory (all my life) to thoroughly wash/rinse my private areas or I immediately have problems. I have too much arthritis to wash myself and must have a daily shower. In my case there is a safety bar that goes around the entire shower (do you have a safety bar for her to hold on while she is in the shower - in front of her? If not, get one. Immediately as she gets into the shower have her grab that bar, lean over and thoroughly wash/rinse the private areas. Then sit down. I don't think anything else would work. Good luck. Females can be prone to too many issues if they are not cleaned with lots of water daily.

Someone might've mentioned this already but there is a shower chair with the center part of the seat cut out. This enables you to easily "get in there" with a loofah/brush/showerhead/etc. I bought it through Amazon, you can search for "PCP Shower Safety Seat, Cutout for Easy Cleaning".