My dad's caregiver who also lives at his house (she's not 24/7 however) wants to have friends or her partner over whenever she likes.
The only issue I have is that he has not yet had the vaccine (nor has she) and he is a high-risk population.
I don't live in the state so it wasn't until the other caregiver made me aware of this that I sent an email to let her know she can't have guests over.
Now she is very upset and sending me long messages in protest.
Do you think it's unreasonable to ask her to not have guests until he is vaccinated and his doctor gives clearance?
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Our housekeeper has a legal contract that meets federal wage and hour laws and applicable state laws. It illegal to give room and board without appropriate pay. It is considered slavery to not provide pay. She has paid vacation, holidays off, health insurance and other employer paid benefits. She has taxes and Social Security withheld and we pay the workers comp, employer portion of social security, and unemployment insurance.
Our housekeeper is a good employee and we trust her completely. Treating employees well results in good employees and a pleasant home. We have a monthly meeting discuss any issues and to set the schedule if either of us has appointments that need to be accommodated. The
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Would you even think about renting a place where the landlord told you that outside visitors are not allowed? Or you are not permitted to leave the room?
Even if or when the caregiver is vaccinated she should not have guests over. This is not her home. This is her place of work and your dad’s home.
You are focused on her vaccinated status but what about her guests? What about the guests family? While it may be more difficult to get COVID-19 after doing vaccinated there is the possibility to still get one of the newer strains and you can still transmit the virus
When she is not working she can go visit her partner, her friends.
I expect it's different - it must be different! - where your dad lives, but here it's the law: no mixing of households. Not 'til... whenever it is. I've got so confused by the timetable for "lockdown easing" that I'm just bumbling on and assuming I will never be allowed to meet anyone socially ever again :(
But your father is (presumably) in an older age group and shielding, neither he nor the caregiver has been vaccinated, and it is OUT OF THE QUESTION that anybody crosses their threshold without a valid reason for being there. Party party party does not constitute even one valid reason.
What's her beef? I'm genuinely curious, I'd love to know what she thinks is unfair about this.
We are allowed to have guests in our home, Governor is asking for small gatherings and common sense.
You can not legally do what this family is doing, so they need to make serious changes or face big problems when this caregiver tenant goes to the authorities and complains about not being paid or being unjustly evicted.
This is a poster child for why we deal with employees per the law of the land. Really the employee has all the power because of the way things have been handled in this situation.
You can not dictate what an employee does on their own time.
You can not rent someone a home and dictate how they utilize the space that they pay for, after the fact. Obviously bringing a business into a residential space would be pushing the limits of zoning and can be stopped. She wants to tell a renter that she can not have anyone over to visit, including her partner.