My father has end stage liver disease and he’s been in decline for a while now. Hospitalized in January and has been back & forth between hospital & nursing home. On Friday he seemed lucid and stable and on Saturday he seemed off to me. His speech was slower and he said he was depressed and had stomach pain. He called me Saturday night and was hallucinating. I called the floor nurse and let her know, thought it must be his ammonia levels.
He has a living will and doesn’t want life saving interventions. His labs came back showing hepatorenal syndrome. I was told he might have 24-48 hrs left. So, I jumped in the car and drove 4.5 hrs to see him. Today I visited him and he is barely conscious. He’s on full comfort care now. I don’t know if he knew it was me with him-it’s sad. I hope he won’t linger like this for long-it seems cruel. I’m his only child and he’s divorced. I wanted him to know he wasn’t alone but it was alright to go.
I don’t really have a question but could use some support right now as I’m going through this alone.
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You are a sweet daughter for being there for your Dad.
Maybe tell your Dad some stories of how you were glad he was your Dad? Maybe some things you did together? I bet he’d love to hear them.
May God grant you both peace in this process.
Can you ask the hospital if they have any one that you can speak with?
Sometimes just having our hand held while we cry is a lifesaver. Try to find out if the hospital has someone who can do this for you.
May God give you strength and comfort right now!
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Be there for him as much as you can. Talk to him. Tell him that you will be alright, that he taught you well. Thank him.
((hugs))