Abusive ex reversed DV charges on me and he has my Mother, who strangely is only mean to me. She has mid to end stage Dementia. Advice?

I've called APS and well even though X has had 198 Arrests 2 strikes 2 terms and two violations & I learned 2012 I was his 4th DV charge as I hired him as my Ihss provider and he picked me up by my neck when his pizza hadn’t arrived. I stayed because I was getting very sick and felt stuck financially and then my Mother moved in just as we were married due to suspicion of Dementia which was confirmed from 2 prior silent frontal lobar strikes. I’ve been pending these charges due to COVID mow for 20 months and Since he lied to avoid going back to prison when he tried to suffocate me, he took off, hit himself and he made up a lie after gaslighting and projecting on me for days and told 911 I am schizophrenic. My Criminal Attorney gave me the body cam evidence and my Mother when she was asked by the Police what Happened she said No I didn’t see her hit him but that she heard me say he hit me. He hit me and I’d hear this and she raised her paw like a cat getting ready to swat and said but I know she hit him because she’s just sick. Now Here’s my concern. No money for another kind of Attorney to hit my Mother safe as he was never really taken care of her . And later my Mom confesses why she did that and she said it was because I gave her Dementia, diabetes and COPD because I had to make my own diseases hers. She told me that I also took away her freedom by having her tested for Dementia and that she hated me for this caused the Doctor to take her drivers license. I tried to explain that is not true and to please not forget to make new memories with me as I’d love to heal our past and that since several people /friends that have seen her said she is not showing ans or washing her clothes or brushing her hair . So I asked her if I could get her hair done and makeup and I would take pretty photos for her - her favorite . She told me no you're going to kidnap me and my tv shows recorded will be lost forever. I assured her that was not going to happen and she still didn’t go. She told me that she would need to ask my X before she could go. Also I have it recorded if her saying she’s never heard of any other time I have been violent towards anyone. But I can’t use the tape because she didn’t give me permission to tape. It seriously concerns me that The only requirement to pass for caregiving is online is to not have Child endangerment or elder abuser but yet a man can have attempted murder on a dog officer and violence since he was 13 and the SHPD chose this man? Well making me the caretaker of my Mom with Lupus and being that he was the bread winner I can understand my Mom feeling like this and yet I can’t seem to get anyone to believe me at the police station . Even with a letter from my (5) year Psychologist that victims of violent that write out a letter with diagnosis codes for the judge June 3rd and multiply times she’s done in her life. To try to knock me down it seems and well this is the farthest this had gone . My Hopes are to find some kind of advocate
and whatever it takes as she falls and should be left alone at
I wish that Cops believed me . Sometimes I
feel Like I have been running behind my Mother since the age of 12 and the next stroke at 19 years old and supporting her as long and I could and it’s caused Ptsd worrying about her because , well she had now become mentally about 7 years old . What A cruel X do do this . My Mom's too far gone to be held responsible by me and I cannot believe the police
Subpoenaed my mom, in her condition for pretrial .
it feels like the police knew who hit who and don’t care at all what they are doing with my Mother they’re
has anyone else had anything similar?