Ask her for a referral now. Make an appointment with the one that she refers you to and have a few sessions if you can to sort of see how it goes. A first and second date if you will. It will not be the same. So do not expect it to be the same. Shocking to think that it just might be better! I am sure the therapist is aware of how this is effecting you as well as other patients she has. But you should tell her how much it is bothering you. I am guessing this is pretty traumatic for her as well.
I hope she will have a good recommendation for you. If you have been seeing her for 10 years, the truth is that she and you may have done all the work toward your recovery that you can do together. You may actually benefit from the change; and since you have little choice, that may be your best hope for the path forward. Sure do wish you good luck. I have been for some period of time, at three different points in my life, to three different therapists to deal with three different issues. My favorite--the therapist who worked BEST with me-- told me "You will not find me to be a silent partner; I will not simply sit and listen to your same stories over and over; I will give you input. It is my feeling that if someone has to remain in therapy for many years, then it is either that the patient is hopeless, or the therapist is inept, and I have never yet met a hopeless patient". Therapists, like the rest of us, have differing approaches. Again, best of luck.
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Make an appointment with the one that she refers you to and have a few sessions if you can to sort of see how it goes. A first and second date if you will.
It will not be the same. So do not expect it to be the same. Shocking to think that it just might be better!
I am sure the therapist is aware of how this is effecting you as well as other patients she has. But you should tell her how much it is bothering you.
I am guessing this is pretty traumatic for her as well.
I have been for some period of time, at three different points in my life, to three different therapists to deal with three different issues. My favorite--the therapist who worked BEST with me-- told me "You will not find me to be a silent partner; I will not simply sit and listen to your same stories over and over; I will give you input. It is my feeling that if someone has to remain in therapy for many years, then it is either that the patient is hopeless, or the therapist is inept, and I have never yet met a hopeless patient".
Therapists, like the rest of us, have differing approaches. Again, best of luck.
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