My mom has turned into an evil woman since her inquiry. She refuses to address her mental health issues. How do I get her help?

Medicare does request that you have a physical every year. I would start there. Give a note to the receptionist listing the things that you have noticed and ask that the doctor read it before Moms appt. You need to rule out anything physical like a UTI. If nothing physical is found then a CT scan or MRI can be done to rule out a Dementia. If this is something new Dad has to realize there is something wrong and not leave you holding the bag. As said, he is her husband and he should be trying to get her help. You can help him but Mom is his responsibility. As said 70 is not elderly.

What is this "inquiry" you speak of?

What sort of responsibility do you feel you have for your parents?

They are responsible for their own lives and you are at liberty to say "no" to requests (as do your siblings, it seems).

Dad needs to talk to his/their doctor about how her mental health challenges should be handled.

Hello WrightOne

You said that Mom behavior is abusive, she is making “false”accusations,and she is in denial!

Mom may refuse to be seen by a physician,but it sounds as though it needed ASAP.

Getting Mom diagnosed may be the the first step. Do you have a support team to help? Other than your Dad?

Technology is amazing in today society. Get on it to find resources in your state whom will assist and give you direction. 211 information line,State and Federal hotlines!

There are resources available ;but you will have to do the work today! Don’t quit seeking and searching for help and you will get it.

Aging can be a scary journey for senior. They will need ongoing assistance. Be encouraged to fight on.

You need to find ways has you travel this caregiving journey to nurture your soul,mind and body, Keep hobbies and social life going. You will need your strength ,and a lot of courage! During decision making process begins.

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If her delusions and accusations are dementia-related, you will not be able to convince her they are untrue. Do not waste your time with arguments and cameras. To her, the threat is real.

She is not going to cooperate with a mental health evaluation unless she wants to.

Your dad can take more action in getting her evaluated or not just like he can remain in the home with her or not.

Maybe you could have your dad come stay with you for a week vacation or so. It might make your mom miss him? If it works, it may need to be repeated from time to time! Also she may be suffering paranoia as a side effect from a medication. I would talk to her doctor about it.

I think that's up to your father, don't you?

He is her primary caregiver. She is 70, which by today's standards makes her scarcely an elder. I don't care what your siblings say or think, you are talking about two adults who are married to one another. If your mother is suffering mental ill health, the responsibility for finding appropriate help for her lies squarely with your father.

And, by the way, if your father is given reason to believe that your mother will be better off in your hands and he is no use to her, he's that much more likely to walk. Do not undermine him by intervening. Do not confuse interfering with supporting.

Help your father by researching resources for him and providing a listening ear. Other than that, stay out of it. This is between the two of them.