How to include aged parent in adult child funeral?
My husband recently passed and I'm putting together the memorial for him to be held in a couple of months. His parents are too old to travel and I'm not sure how to include them. Any ideas?
Definitely video and post it for anyone to watch - there's lots of folks who can't travel and may want to participate like that. Get one of your tech savvy kids (related or not) to set it up for you and share with everyone. Lots of funeral homes provide live online services these days, too. Someone located where mom/dad live can assist them with watching on a large monitor.
I also suggest livestreaming . . . and making it available later so they can view again.
Also, I would not want them watching the livestream alone -- Do they have friends that could join them or did your husband have friends in their area that would want to be part of a gathering? After the livestream, they could share a meal together, have a bit of social time to support your husband's parents.
Ask a loved one help them participate watching by Zoom. Your funeral home should take care of the streaming.
if you want an opportunity for them to participate in the service further and they are able, ask them to write a letter or pick a favorite poem that can be read aloud on their behalf.
If this is too difficult, including them in the musical selection (favorite hymn?) may help them feel more connected.
My friend’s husband died with COVID. They went through with a traditional service at her church. Because of COVID, not everyone could attend and they streamed the service. It’s up to you if you would want to try something like that. I don’t know if I would want to do that but some people find it a nice thing to do.
Others will have some suggestions. Sorry that I couldn’t be more helpful.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace during this difficult time.
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Most churches are set up to live stream services and funerals b/c they have been doing it now for over a year.
Also, I would not want them watching the livestream alone -- Do they have friends that could join them or did your husband have friends in their area that would want to be part of a gathering? After the livestream, they could share a meal together, have a bit of social time to support your husband's parents.
Ask a loved one help them participate watching by Zoom. Your funeral home should take care of the streaming.
if you want an opportunity for them to participate in the service further and they are able, ask them to write a letter or pick a favorite poem that can be read aloud on their behalf.
If this is too difficult, including them in the musical selection (favorite hymn?) may help them feel more connected.
May God grant you grieving mercies and comfort during this difficult time.
Do they have anyone that can help them do it through zoom or facetime? I hope you find something that works for everyone.
Others will have some suggestions. Sorry that I couldn’t be more helpful.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace during this difficult time.