In Florida. As the title says. I don't know any information and or able to see my elder parent due to sibling acting up. How can I request courts in Florida anything that can initiate a process that will force her to allow me to have contact with my elder parent? Please help
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1. financially abusing your mother
2. isolating her socially
3. denying her communication with her family
4. allowing her husband to abuse your mother
you go straight to APS. You need dates, times, names and figures. Not emotional generalities.
And, by the way, until I read your response below, the first impression I got from your original post is that your hard-headed sister was perhaps keeping away the favourite child to prevent the favourite child taking advantage of his ever-affectionate mother. So, yes, as I said, dates, times, names, numbers.
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How old are they. Is sibling caring for parent in siblings home? Does parent have a Dementia? Does sibling have POA?
If parent is competent, sibling can't keep them from seeing you if parent wants to. POA is usually not in effect until parent is found incompetent. But even then, I don't feel the POA has the right to keep a sibling away from a parent unless that sibling upsets the parent in some way. The parent needs protection from a child.
”……sibling acting up…..” needs to be “….sibling refuses to give Mom the phone when I call” “Sibling returns gifts and cards I send to Dad….”
Then “…….hard headed sibling…..” should maybe be “…..sibling who has lived closer, does a lot of the heavy lifting, was called when Mom broke her hip….” (or maybe not),
THEN avoiding, when contacting “offending” sibling, referring to yourself as “TheFavSon”, even if the whole family knows that.
Somewhere, the balance in caregiving has failed. There maybe all kinds of reasons when that happens, and when it matters to you, you need to keep your eye focused on the goal, be somewhat flexible in your approach, and explore ALL THE ALTERNATIVES before thinking in terms of “force”.
Have you contacted the parent’s lawyer? Is there anyone in your situation that respects both you and your sibling? Could a third party be encouraged to intervene? Has this situation existed since your parent became dependent, or before? Is sibling operating within the parent’s POA?
I hope you can “fix” this, and as you are certainly aware, after a situation like this occurs, it is all but impossible to establish a truce. I do EVERYTHING I can to focus on the ultimate benefit to my LO, and ignore the hostility, and emphasize that MY ONLY INTENTION AND INTEREST is for my LO.
Hoping you can soon establish contact with your parent. They need and deserve every bit of love we can offer them, whether we’re angry with each other or not.
The fav son part is because is the truth. My momma loves me more than the rest due to being the youngest. Is well known and is known in a joking type of way. None of my siblings have ever been jealous about that.
Is too long of a story. But I'm mainly looking for a legal way to be able to see my parent. As far as POA i really don't know what the case is and or a way to find out. I have been calling and texting requesting to talk or see my mother for 2 years at this point to be exact with no answer. Me and her always had issues over me objecting how she manages my parent finances basically to take trips and do things with her husband and basically use the money to her benefit while my parent sit in the house. That's one of the issues. The second is her husband mistreatment of my parent. And obviously it adds fuel since he is one of the ones taking financial advantage of my parent. So I confronted her without violence and she took my parents phone away against her wishes. My parent have mental issues but Im not sure if she is legally competent since she do knows what she does hard to explain. Her mental issues are not so severe in other words.
Ive been literally begging this people with little to no help from other family members due to being a small family plus living far apart. So is just be begging to "let me" see or talk to her and being ignored by now is going to be 2 years. No answers at all. So I just need to know how can I request this in Court.
I love my momma and have gone thru the hardest time not knowing how is she doing even if she is alive. It eats me inside the thought of losing her. My mental health have gone downhill over this. I just miss her with all my heart and feel helpless not knowing how is she being treated now that i don't know since I was the only one who would call her and have that special connection with her.