Mine is. I recently figured this out. Thank you gods for giving me this knowledge and protected from her abusive and sometimes dangerous games. I am going to be busy for the duration of the summer.
I hope your children are not being left in this environment.
Yes, you need to take care of you. Your stepfather is responsible for her care. If he can't do it, then he needs to find resources or place her.
Watching Dr. Phil yesterday. It was about an verbably abusive father who the daughter also said has hit her. Dr. Phil gave the impression that the father was Narcissistic. The daughter just was not getting thru to her father. Dr. Phil said "he is not your job". In other words its not up to her to fix her Dad. Her responsibility was to herself. She said after this program she was backing away because Dad was toxic. Dr. Phil told her she was right in doing it. It was up to Dad to get help because he needed it.
So, Mom is "not your job". She has a husband to care for her. Thats his job, he signed up for it.
My mom recently died. I never felt that she was narcissistic. She certainly wasn’t perfect, but she didn’t have the characteristics of a true narcissist.
Many people on this forum would absolutely say that their mom is narcissistic so stick around to discuss your situation.
I read your profile. You have a lot on your plate. Congrats on your three years of sobriety. You are not responsible for your mom’s care. Your first responsibility is to yourself. It looks like you have worked hard at rebuilding your life. Don’t allow your mom’s needs to distract your attention away from your plans. Your mom will adapt to life without you looking after her. Are you her primary caregiver? Do you live with her?
Speak with a social worker to help plan for her future care.
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Yes, you need to take care of you. Your stepfather is responsible for her care. If he can't do it, then he needs to find resources or place her.
Watching Dr. Phil yesterday. It was about an verbably abusive father who the daughter also said has hit her. Dr. Phil gave the impression that the father was Narcissistic. The daughter just was not getting thru to her father. Dr. Phil said "he is not your job". In other words its not up to her to fix her Dad. Her responsibility was to herself. She said after this program she was backing away because Dad was toxic. Dr. Phil told her she was right in doing it. It was up to Dad to get help because he needed it.
So, Mom is "not your job". She has a husband to care for her. Thats his job, he signed up for it.
Many people on this forum would absolutely say that their mom is narcissistic so stick around to discuss your situation.
I read your profile. You have a lot on your plate. Congrats on your three years of sobriety. You are not responsible for your mom’s care. Your first responsibility is to yourself. It looks like you have worked hard at rebuilding your life. Don’t allow your mom’s needs to distract your attention away from your plans. Your mom will adapt to life without you looking after her. Are you her primary caregiver? Do you live with her?
Speak with a social worker to help plan for her future care.
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