As a first time caregiver, on my first case, how do I cope with a client who doesn't want me in their home?

So, your company is under contract to provide caregivers what, 24/7 in this lady's home? And you have been sent to do the job.

Question 1, in this and every other assignment - what does it say in the Care Plan?

Yes, its very unprofessional to sit on your phone. Ask if there is anything she would like to do. Don't be too sweet and don't talk to her like she is a child.

I'm assuming this woman's PoA hired you? Can you clarify that you are sleeping over, not actually living there? I'm hoping you have a written contract in place outlining agreed wages, hours, etc? The loss of privacy is a legitimate grievance. Don't hover if you are able. I've upped the caregiver hours for my 2 aunts (ages 99 with advanced dementia and 102, with all her mind but physically diminished yet mobile). My 102-yr old aunt is very upset over the extra 12 hours a week of increased (but very needed) care. I wouldn't like it either so I'm working with the aids to figure out ways to be helpful but also discrete. It's not easy and you will have to figure out the balance as you go along. Whatever you do don't let her see you on your phone -- your professionalism is diminished every time they see you distracted by it. It's a perception thing.

Kill with kindness. :-) Be helpful with the housework (that's always welcome) and agree with her that she doesn't need much help, even if she really does. Little white lies can help, like telling her that her having caregivers is only for a bit, even if you think she needs long term assistance. First days are hard. In a couple of weeks, I think she'll warm up to you. Becoming less independent is a hard thing for many people.

Pushing to top.

It is hard, do you have ideas on how to make your visit fun for you and the client?