How to deal with greedy uncle threatening me?

I am so sorry for the loss of your grandmother. She was blessed to have such a loving granddaughter. You didn’t do anything wrong. You weren’t overstepping in any way. I was the only grandchild in my family that spent time with my grandmother throughout my life. Be proud of yourself for being kind to her. I cherish the memories that I have of my grandmother. She was so very sweet.

I adored my grandmother and I helped her just as you did for yours. I am sure that her love for you means the world to you. You have precious memories of your time together. My grandmother told me often how much she appreciated my love and compassion for her.

As long as you have receipts for your purchases, you should be fine. You weren’t going on a ‘shopping spree’ for unnecessary items. You bought things that she needed.

Wishing you the very best!

I feel like part of the issue here is she says she is "next of kin" . And "she told me to empty her bank pay all bills & buy her everything she needed " Was she POA? or listed on the accounts? If she was not, then emptying the accounts could look a bit "off" to others. Is she listed on the will as the sole inheritor? I am also confused about what the carehome staff is saying?

If you have the receipts for big ticket items, that accounts for the majority of the money, then you are not really in a situation.

I would encourage you to make copies and send a letter with the copies telling all of her children that grandma's money was used for her, as verified by the attached copies and that you will not be returning any funds as they were used according to grandma's requests.

Do not just ignore this though. That can cause problems. So, respond with a letter and copies and wait. If they pursue it, you can always counter sue for harassment, pain ans suffering and anything else a good attorney can think of.

I am sorry for your loss and I am sorry that your family wasn't present, yet now have their hands out. It is more common then we can imagine.

Provide what you can but you don't own this man anything. Who did he think was going to pay for Grands funeral if she didn't have any money. Who did he think was getting Grand what she needed. She was responsible for her own care and you were just her gofer. You did what was asked of you. I don't see where he even thinks you owe anything. It was grands money spent on grand.

Privide the receipts for the care and items bought, the facility should have asked you for a detailed list of the items brougt in at admission and seek out an attorney to defend yourself if you cannot provide proof that this money was in fact used solely for grandma.

You are not legally her next of kin, her children are if her spouse is dead.