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Lolaloud Asked July 2021

My aunt committed fraud, how do we tell her boyfriend?

My aunt committed fraud. We just found out this week, she died in March. We don’t no how to tell her boyfriend who is 73 long time veteran. He’s going to be devastated, he knew nothing of this that she took out money from his account they had separate accounts. She took out $5,000 plus per month to give to my lazy cousin who does not work. I guess my aunt did this for two straight years, we don’t no how she got his account or anything. So how are we going to tell him? It’s going to really devastate him. My Aunt is not the nicest person, never liked her or my cousin so now what to do? She took over $67,000 in total from him and gave it to my cousin like I said she doesn't work lazy A**H**. My Aunt pays for everything, her bills, vacations and medical bills she has no insurance, very greedy pays for several cars and other necessities. It’s a mess how should we tell him? I feel bad for him he never knew.

Isthisrealyreal Aug 2021
5k+ monthly for 2 straight years does not make 67k.
pamzimmrrt Aug 2021
It's a puzzle for sure... LOL
JoAnn29 Aug 2021
I don't see how the cousin could be sued. Seems the Aunt made the transfers but the cousin could say she thought the money was from Mom.

And who is watching the boyfriends accts that it was not noticed that in 2 years 67,000 was taken. No one may inherit the house if he files against the Aunt. Its an asset and there maybe a judgement put against the house that the proceeds of the sell will be used to satisfy it.

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GardenArtist Aug 2021
There are a number of questions that aren't yet answered, and would help explain the situation as well as your role.

1.  How did YOU find out about the fraud?   Through law enforcement?  Other means?  If law enforcement informed you, what was your role in your aunt's life, and why did they contact you, if you're not a victim?

2.   What documentation do you have?  You make a lot of serious allegations against your aunt, especially in her alleged donations to your cousin.

3.   What action are the police taking against your aunt?   They're the ones with the knowledge and assets to follow up on any theft.

4.    Why and how do/did you have access to review "his account", which I assume means the victim?   What legal authority did you have?  And if you had access to review, you presumably could have detected the theft and taken action to report it.  Did you, and if not,why?

There are a lot of issues alleged but not explained, with also enough complaints against your aunt to reflect your hostility toward her.  

Also completely unexplained is how your aunt accessed the funds, and how this was done w/o the boyfriend's knowledge.

I'm having problems understanding not only what was done, but how, and why it wasn't discovered, as well as your role in this situation.
cwillie Aug 2021
I'll give some of possibilities that occurred to me
- the OP is involved in some way with handling the estate
- it's not hard to access bank accounts if you have access to bank cards and their PINs as well as online accounts and passwords.
- the OP may still have access to the accounts because of the two above points (that doesn't make it right though), or they may be or are close to the POA for Aunt's boyfriend.


As for prosecuting the cousin - As far as I can see once the estate is sued for restitution the matter would not likely go any farther, unless there is evidence they colluded with the aunt then they are merely guilty of being a greedy user and there's no law against that.
NeedHelpWithMom Aug 2021
Your profile is empty. May I ask how you are involved in this? Are you close to your aunt? Why do you have access to her financial records? Are you close to her boyfriend? I don’t exactly understand this posting.

Can you clarify a bit further? Did you find the withdrawals and report your aunt for fraud? We don’t have the full story here.

Why are you posting this if it is being taken care of? So, the boyfriend has never been aware of his financial status?

Lolaloud Jul 2021
There’s so much more we found out last week my cousin could go to jail it’s a total mess I just don’t trust any one know I’m glad I live in Vegas far away it’s just bad that my Aunt did that to cover her own A…. The sad thing is my Aunt enable my cousin for years to be lazy sob even with two degrees she never amount to anything she gets fired at every job she’s not even working know I don’t feel sorry for her as a cousin she treated me like 💩 for years and never liked me my Aunt basically covered everything for my cousin even her many vacations and still is it happy I could go on

pamzimmrrt Jul 2021
Wow, someone needs to be looking over his financials pronto! Are you sure he didn;t notice the missing money, I mean that is alot! Maybe he knew but went along with it.
Lolaloud Jul 2021
He is being taken care of right know and he never looked at his account I do every week to make sure it’s there
Momheal1 Jul 2021
She says they just found out this week. I would also suggest calling elder abuse hotline or elder affairs in his town as well as any family he has and let them know what you suspect. Maybe even Veteran Affairs? This is awful - and I agree he deserves to know so that someone can protect him - and make sure he is taken care of going forward. So sad.
Lolaloud Jul 2021
It’s being taken care of the court might have my cousin pay it all back once my aunts house is sold my cousin gets half but might have to pay him back it’s a mess greed my cousin will end with nothing I hope she does lose it all
CaregiverL Jul 2021
Contact lawyer that specializes in Elder Abuse & document everything. Contact boyfriend’s children & /or family if any. You need police report to report it. Which bank allowed this fraud to happen? Don’t allow dead Aunt or lazy cousin to get away with it. Cousin can be arrested & jailed I hope! Absolutely tell her bf ASAP. You also knew it was happening all along?
Lolaloud Jul 2021
Everything is being handle right know

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