Today was a bad day, mom couldn't get out of bed. It was very hot and humid, so that might have had some effect. She just got up, got out of the bed, to her commode, and back. She struggles to get comfortable, and won't let me touch her or help in any way. Then she gets mad at me when I walk away after I know she is safe. I guess she expects me to sit there and listen to her complain. She's always this way, but occasionally shows signs of gratitude. Last night, she apologized to my sister and I in her unique way. PT came over yesterday and she was able to get in her wheelchair, in the shower, and back in her chair. PT thinks it's probably more mental than physical (no dementia). She almost makes it, then quits and falls back in her chair. She can do it if she tries. I understand she is in pain, so I try to be accommodating. I have learned patience and to keep my cool. I am doing everything I can to keep her comfortable. I bought a small foam mattress with 6 heating zones and some vibrating things that will fit in her recliner. Sorry for venting like this.
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It was the pain. It changed me as a person.
Now, if I were you, I’d have a very frank talk with her doctor about upping her pain meds so she’s happy. At her age, you hardly need to worry about her becoming addicted, or it destroying her liver…. You want the winter of her life to be a joy, not a misery.
Best of luck.