While living in a Board and Care my mom became septic from a UTI. Are they to blame? She was near death when she was brought to the ER.

No matter what happened, once you feel this way it is better to move.

I would definitely file a complaint against the nurse that said no without actually ruling it out. She should not be allowed to treat vulnerable people. I would file complaints against her business as well and probably the facility since they have so much to do with who is coming in to treat their residents.

I have to say that I wouldn't make any decisions about hospice until mom is feeling better from the sepsis. She is not in her right mind and does probably feel like dying would be the easiest route right now. My mom went through something similar and once she felt better she didn't want to die.

I would insist on rehab. My mother has been suffering with UTI"s for years since her five children, As she got older she started getting them more frequently. A few times I thought she was going to die but never got septic. Now she still gets them but a little less frequent and with very careful monitoring and antibiotic therapy she is doing well. So sorry it is heartbreaking I know. The nurse should have reported it to the doctor and he/she should have ordered a urine specimen. Done early might have prevented sepsis. I would concentrate on your mother right now and see if things turn around. Maybe with antibiotics as origionally ordered she has a good chance and once she feels better she should start eating again. After the antibiotics and she improves I would call the director and report this negligence of the nurse. I would refuse to have this nurse care for your dear mother and if not happy with the place find another, Please update when you get a chance.

Get that better care out of your "area", which is not known for the best 'board & care', or nursing homes. Nice place to live, but not the best in facilities. Even if you need to travel further, say, over one hour, try to get her in a better recommended facility if they cannot keep her in the hospital.

I cannot recommend a good place, but looking at Glendale, Burbank, Pasadena may help.

Let the hospital know, firmly, that it would be an unsafe discharge.

Start looking for better placement, where Mom's basic needs will be met.

She should go to a rehab place for the five days and get the antibiotics. My mother did that, and it was fine.

Without having done any testing, I don't know how the nurse could rule out a UTI. It seems negligent to me, but don't waste your energy on being angry at this point. Focus your energy on getting Mom into a better living situation if you don't trust the place where she was living.