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Theladyei720 Asked August 2021

My 94-year old Mother is a COVID survivor, but not without residuals. Any suggestions?

She was losing her sight before COVID, but after was totally blind. Additionally, she now suffers from dementia, hallucinations and anxiety. She is currently at an Assisted Living facility, but they feel she needs a higher level of care.
Mom has lived there for 7-years and managed the convenient store, volunteered for the Welcome Wagon and has her picture on the facilities' bus. She is the face of this business.
If she has to leave, she will be devastated and go down hill rapidly. I take her for outings when weather is good and everyone at the Assisted Living knows her by name and tell me how much they love her. What should I do? Any suggestions?

againx100 Aug 2021
While it's sad that her time if coming for leaving a place she has really fit in so well at, if they are telling you it's time, then it's time to move her to a more appropriate level of care. My daughter worked at an AL and I know they want the $ and try very hard to keep residents as long as they possibly can. But then it becomes very hard on the nurses and other staff because they are not properly staffed for this higher level of care the resident is in need of.

I would ask them where they would suggest she go next. I would start pursing that ASAP since at some point they might give you a deadline and it's better to do the work without too much added stress from having to be super quick about it.

Be glad that she has had such a wonderful 7 years here.

Daughterof1930 Aug 2021
Sadly, the day is likely coming she’ll have to move. If there is leeway now, have you had her doctor evaluate for any meds that could calm the hallucinations and anxiety?

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JoAnn29 Aug 2021
Assisted livings can only do so much. They are not skilled nursing.

I am assuming Mom still knows where she is? Who is who? If so, is it possible for you to be there more often. Run over when anxiety hits. Pick up some of the care. I ask because her Dementia will progress where she won't know anyone. Then maybe a transfer would not be so traumatic.
Cover99 Aug 2021
She's blind. Does it really matter at this point (to know anyone)?

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