Mom (86) lives alone and I got bites when I visited her. I have sprayed and done all I can. I live 600 miles away. She has Alzheimer’s and doesn’t believe she has a problem. The home health workers won’t come into the home till she has a certificate that the house is free of bugs. I can’t move her in to ALF either. The house is very cluttered. She really can’t afford an exterminator but there is not much choice. I spent a week with her and her memory is worse. I really don’t think she can live on her own much longer. How can I get someone in to spray when she doesn’t believe there is a problem? I can’t just go in and start throwing stuff away. I am the only one that can deal with it. My father and 2 brothers are gone. I need help to resolve all this.
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Rosetree, I say with kindness - please think about your thought above. Is it "much longer" or is it now? It's OK to take thinking time on this but first tread with caution through this crises stage. Below are my impressions of similar situations - but I am not there! Arm yourself with knowledge & facts.
* The ER will want to move her on
* The hospital will not want to admit without medical need
* Hospital will push for discharge
* Hospital will discharge unless strong reasons this is unsafe
May I ask what took Mom to the ER?
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The exterminator should be able to tell you what they can treat and what they can't. Anything upholstered will not be salvageable. Mattresses either. Get the house cleaned out, exterminated and sold. at Market Value.
Hate to say this, but if this has never been a problem before with Mom, one of the caretakers could have brought them in.
Some things may be unsalvageable. Furniture, for instance.
When you visit, your personal items need to be put through the same scrutiny. You can bring the bedbugs home with you.
Yes. APS may need to be the place to begin.
If you don't have powers of attorney for her then you actually can't do anything at all, nobody except the state can. Find out what you can and can't actually accomplish and go from there.
I've never used this, but my county has a low interest house improvement project. A neighbor used it to get some work done on a house she and her alcoholic/drug user son couldn't take care of.
When she died, the loan was forgiven. Apparently it doesn't remain an obligation once the owner dies.
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They need to get Adult Protective Services involved and have your mom declared a ward of the state and taken into care.
Are your parents still married? If so, you should give the hospital dad's contact information.