The daughter lives out of state and has not seen the aunt in 2 years. The aunt constantly calls me to take her to the store and the doctors. If I do not call her the aunt get mad. We were shopping and the aunt forgot her phone to call her daugher. The aunt did tell her 2 sons that she was going to be with shopping with me. The 2 sons and daughter call her 4x and 5x a day because she lives alone. The daughter was upset because she usually calls the aunt at 2:00pm and she did not have her phone to answer. I said I was sorry to the daughter and she told me that I should be sorry and that I did not have any sense to take the aunt out. The aunt likes to shop and get out of the house. As I said before the daughter has not seen her mother in 2 years. Maybe I should not get involved with this family anymore. The aunt is 97 years old. The son said to me that he thinks his sister is jealous of me because I spend so time with the Aunt.
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It seems like with the invention of cellphones, people have lost their patience if someone doesn't answer or text back immediately.
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It's not your fault that your cousin hasn't seen her own mother in two years. As for your aunt getting angry and blaming you for her missed phone call, she ought to be grateful that you look after her and take her out. You're not a hired caregiver.
Seriously, the next time your cousin or aunt gets on you about something, tell them both to go pound sand.
She needs to trust a little, but my gut says it’s not lack of trust but guilt at play here. She knows she should be the one helping her mom, not you. Maybe ask her about it, and validate her feelings if that’s the case. It hard when you want to be there for someone but you can’t. Just remind her that you’re trying your best, so to go easy on you. She’ll say sorry, or she should.