Should memory care residents be kept out of their rooms or be alowed to come and go as please in room?

"I have been struggling and coming to realize no one will ever be able to take care of him like me."

Exactly. He will never be cared for the way that you would have. That's why you visit. I hated that the aides could not match Moms socks to her outfit or even make sure her top and pants matched. I left 3 prs of shoes, black, brown and blue. Never matched to the outfit. She wore her hair short but it was never brushed right. Part never the same.

So, I started putting her outfits together. The shoes, one pair was enough and black went with everything. Socks, all white no colors. Her hair, I carried a brush and small can of hairspray to style it when I was there. Mom had Dementia and I wanted her to at least look nice.

Not sure if changing facilities will make a difference. Mom was in an AL and later a NH. In both she was able to walk/scoot around but they tried to keep her to the common area.

Going into other peoples rooms is common. Thats why you take nothing to a caring facility that is of value. You are allowed to take them back to their room for a visit. At night they are probably taken back to get them ready for bed, watch some TV until they are ready to go to sleep.

My husband is in a memory care facility and he will not sit down for 2 seconds so they just let him walk around the facility all day long, I would hate to see him locked in his room all day. Most people are in lounge chairs in the common room.

Thank you.
Is it because they are safer all together than if they are in their rooms?

I am trying to decide whether to move my husband from one care facility to another.

I had issues with bed being wet made up and a few other things where he is now.
However, the staff have seemed to be working in correcting the issues and I have not found any since.
My husband has had episodes of non responsiveness with no reason.
Where he is now they have found him in other peoples rooms and once in his room slumped over when I came to visit.
So...the reason for asking the question.

The place I may move him to say they keep them out of their rooms.
my husband usually doesn't stay in his room anyway. But, like I said has been in others room and the one incident.

I know there is no guarantee I will not have issues at the other place. I have been struggling and coming to realize no one will ever be able to take care of him like me.
But burnout has gotton the best of me. Not being able to find in house care nowadays. Just me 24/7.

Any thoughts or advice?

My mother's place tried to keep the residents in a common room most of the day, because they tend to want to hide out alone in their rooms and can't be easily supervised. There were some residents who weren't too bad and could come and go, but by and large, they kept them together.