My mother was put on hospice this week and is rapidly declining. I want to move her out of her nursing home. Can I do this?

This was an issue with our mother . My brother whom never left home . Lived with my mother from the time he was born until her death .. my mother said if there is nothing else they can do . I want to go home ... and die .. PLEASE everyone leave your wishes in writing . Because there is always that one family member. That can not follow wishes of a loved one . And there is that program that BELIEVE their way of handling things is THE BEST .. never what you think .. and the extreme measures a daughter would take for complete comfort measures for THEIR MOTHER ..

Have everything you want in writing ✍and notarized b 4 we have 2 b handled by others that do not have the best interest for the ending ..

My mother pancreatic cancer did her funeral 😔 but wanted to go home 🏡 😪 and was told no ..

I still today suffer from her not getting her last wish ...

comfort as you go through your mother's transition ...

It depends.

Please put your Mother in the centre of this decision.

Will it be better for your Mother to move at this time?

Can you get Mom home safely, with all the correct gear, so she can be kept comfortable & there is adequate care staff? Plus adequate support for you?

Wanting her to come home is a natual reaction - a thought based on love ❤️

Love + practical matters are required.

If you can't bring her home it will not in ANY way diminish how you much you love her. It just isn't always meant to be. No guilt!

Peace to you at this hard time 🕊️

You can probably do it legally but WHY would you put her thru a painful move right now when she’s actively dying? Can’t her loved ones surround her in the nursing home? And if she’s on hospice there, why isn’t she getting “ hospice care”? You could also privately pay for round the clock private duty care THERE rather than take the chance of moving her and having her die in transit. Whatever you decide prayers and good wishes are being sent to you and her💜

Pameladarling: A broken neck is a very SERIOUS trauma. Hopefully you are your mother's agent as in PoA and can make the decision being faced towards the end of her life.

Talk with her doctor, social services, and insurance. It might be possible or the facility may have different rules for visitors for hospice clients.

Your profile says she is on Medicaid, they will not pay for 24/7 nurses. Is that what you are asking about?

You should speak to the hospice provider about how this gets done. They know how to get her home to die.

If you are moms POA there shouldn't be a problem with bringing her home, and if you're not, you can still request that she be brought to the hospice home, for her to die there, as the hospice homes are always very beautiful and peaceful, and you receive much better help from them there than you will from in home hospice care.
Praying it all works out for moms best. God bless you.

If you are asking about legality, does this mean you are not her MPoA or legal guardian? Is your mom mentally competent still to make her own decisions? If your mom is still competent (and conscious) and you are not her legal advocate, then she gets to make the decisions.

If your are her legal advocate, then you can make decisions that are in her best interests that she would want. I don't see why hospice couldn't be set up in your home. That's what we did with my FIL dying of cancer. I'm so glad he was surrounded by family in his own home.

The PT may have been "non-existent" because perhaps a DNR and other health care directives was signed by her (or her legal advocate) when she entered the facility. I'm so sorry she fell and now has to endure this. May you receive peace in your heart.

If you are her substitute decision maker (POA) and can demonstrate that you have the resources to care for her properly then I can't see why you shouldn't be able to do this.