I am the caregiver to my 87 year old spouse who has dementia, OCD, is Narcissistic and angry. He is in debt with the IRS, garnishment/levy and a large amount of outstanding credit card debt. Nothing but hell living here. Stress off the chain. I am dealing with a life threatening illness and some days I just cry all day. I had left him back in 2017, out of pity I came back to help because his 8 children don’t even call. I don’t know what to do anymore. Just walking out seems to be my only option. Due to Covid 19 I cannot get any help for him or me. Does anyone have any suggestions or could recommend me to a support group that meets during this time?
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Do you have anyone you can stay with temporarily? You were doing it on your own before him, you can do it again. Leave, then call APS and tell them there is a vulnerable adult that needs immediate attn. Tell them you can no longer live with him because you personally need care. You have not been able to get him or you any help.
I would bet once you get away from this stress your health will improve. A hotel room better than living with him. Get that divorce if you haven't.
Get some legal help to disentangle your finances with those of your husband's. You don't want to go down with that ship!
Even a small low income apartment would be preferable to living with such stress. I find I can be happy in a tiny apartment or a large house as long as my personal relationships are in good shape.
Do call a domestic hotline. They may have many ideas about how to care for yourself.
COVID is an annoyance, abssolutely, but it has not shut down the entire country. You can get help. Please take care of you!
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Last but not least you should call a domestic violence hotline. I can only imagine the emotional abuse you are experiencing.
You are right, you should leave especially for your own health. You need to take care of you.