Help with decisions re mother in-law care?

thanks, she has enough money for a year or so, i just talked to another relative who may be willing to do in home care if we can get her on medicaid after her money is gone.

The relative can not force you to do anything. They may try to bully you into it but you can say no.

You might want to offer some suggestions to the relative, depending on what condition your MIL is in. Can she live independently? How old? Dementia?

If she can live alone, they can get her into senior housing. Help her sign up for a home aide if needed and meals on wheels, etc.

The relative absolutely cannot force you.

However if she's helpless and prone to eviction soon, you might feel morally liable to take her.

MIL's resources should be used for her care.

Has this caregiver been receiving compensation for caring for MIL?

What level of care does MIL require?

You can ask for a "needs assessment" by her local Area Agency on Aging who may also be able to help you identify good facilities that would meet her needs if you don't desire to bring her home.