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MicheleLH Asked February 2022

January 19th my father fell. Since then he's been in the hospital/rehab. Now he's sleeping a lot and not eating. What to do?

So January 19th my daddy fell and hit his head pretty hard. Had a couple of abrasions and from there he's been in the hospital/rehab. Now they're saying that he needs assisted living. When I go to visit him he hardly talks. He's always sleeping and curled up in the bed. He acts like he doesn't want me to bother him and he's hardly eating or moving around. He was walking, but now it's getting worse. Every time I go to visit him, he's curled up in the bed with the windows shut and the door shut. He doesn't like a lot of light. Why is this?

Riverdale Feb 2022
I don't think you or they mean assisted living. It sounds as though he needs skilled nursing. Please try to see that he is being rotated in the bed to avoid a bedsore.

You don't mention your father's age. As hard as it may be accept perhaps he does not wish to continue living. Perhaps he just wants the suffering to end. I hope you can speak with staff and access the situation. He is not in any condition for assisted living at present. I hope you get clarification and can speak to the right person about his future care.

needtowashhair Feb 2022
He needs to be evaluated by a neurologist. Did he have a CT scan at the hospital? Is he in the hospital now or in rehab? If it was my dad and he's in rehab, I would have him evaluated elsewhere.
Riverdale Feb 2022
So glad to see you are back.

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97yroldmom Feb 2022
Michele what are the doctors telling you? Have you asked them about dads decline? Is your dad working with a neurologist?
Will he eat if you encourage him? Have you brought him something he really likes? Ice cream or a milk shake has lots of calories and you might be able to tempt him with that.
Has he lost weight?
Perhaps the light and noise disturb him and he wants to rest.
Do you think he could be tired from the therapy?
Normally to go into ALF he would need to be able to take care of himself to a degree. How you describe his condition sounds more like a nursing home is needed, unless you are catching him at a bad time. Try to talk to his care team and find out what is going on with him. He might need to be treated for depression.

MJ1929 Feb 2022
You need him to be seen by the doctor. It's hard to know what's going on without a doctor checking him out and perhaps doing some tests to see what's going on and why he's so sensitive to light.

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