My elderly mother always expects money from me every month. Any advice?

Hi Baekana,
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Is Mom living beyond her means?

If so, she will need to take responsibity for that & make some changes.

Are you residing in the US? Do you live with your Mom?

More info would be helpful: is your mother old enough for Medicare and social security? If she lives with you she needs to go. She can contact social services for her county to apply for an Elder Waiver or Section 8 housing (govt subsidized). She can get food stamps, etc. Your family comes first and you must defend this. She obviously doesn't care about you or them. Therefore, she must go. If she lives with you, you can evict her. If you live with her, you must move out. It will be hard at first but it will get better once she stops sucking off of you.

You have kids. They are your first priority, second is yourself, and then mom who is set relative to you with guaranteed ss and Medicare for life.