Today my mom, 65, had her first fall. She went to the hospital and has a broken hip and is having surgery tomorrow morning. She will need physical therapy as well. I have no idea as of yet whether she has any other medical conditions because she hasn't been to a doctor or had medical insurance in 5 years at least. I live 9 hours away and my sister 5 hours. I am here for my the next few days but I cannot stay. I do not have any clue what to do. She wants to stay independent, but I don't feel like we can risk it. She was on the floor all night before she could call anyone. I really need advice here.
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You want to ask the sw at the hospital to find out if mom qualifies for MEDICAID (medical insurance for folks who are low income) or if she qualifies for help with her Medicare part B premium.
My mom (who has since passed away) had 3 kids who loved her dearly. We all n worked and had mortgages, kids in college and retirements to fund. When she broke her hip at agev90, it did not enter our minds for ONE SECOND that our mom should be cared for by any of us. Mom went to NH and lived a good life for and lived another 4.5 years there with us as frequent visitors.
Do not let ANYONE tell you that you must do hands on care for your mom.
Talk honestly to her heath team. Don't over promise help you can't actually do.
Be realistic. If you can stay one week after discharge, tell them. If you can't at all, tell them. It will help the staff make the safest discharge plan.
Keep you common-sense hat on! Some Mothers will add big pressure to 'get me out of here'. Want promises you'll move in so they can avoid a rehab stay or PT 'strangers' in their home.
You don't need to fly into town on a white horse to save her.
It's her hip after all. The recovery & rehab is hers too.
Be as interested & supportive as suits your relationship.
She's young so hopefully should recover really well.
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Does your mom have Medicare?
Why hasn't she been seeing a doctor?
Does she work?
Is she getting Social Security,?
You need to see the discharge planning office asap. Hospitals start discharge planning the minute you are admitted by law.
You need to let them know that mom has no caregiver at home and that she will need inpatient rehab and support afterwards. Because you have tovwork for a living.
Doesn't want to see a doctor.. fear I think. She is not working and does have social security. I will go see the discharge office tomorrow. Thank you so much.
Your mother's insurance situation needs to be figured out pronto. What kind of relationship do you have with her?
Keep us updated!
You say your Mom is not on insurance. Is there a reason that your mother is not on Medicare?
You will be now in a hospital setting. It is time to discuss with Social Services. Call them immediately and let them know Mom will not have a support system.
Your Mom will likely go to rehab. It is important to let Social Services at rehab know that your Mom has no support system in the area. She may require placement for some period due to this.
If your Mom has made no POA designations and no medical advanced directives, now is the time to consider addressing this; Social services can help and guide. If you, nor anyone else in family wishes to do this then it may be necessary in future to allow the state to assume guardianship or conservatorship should Mom become incapacitated mentally in future. That is likely some time away; as I said, your Mother is not old by today's standards at all.
Speak with Social Services as soon as you are able. This being the weekend get nursing staff to get MD order for Social Service consult soon as possible, leaving your phone for contact.
Best of luck.
After her surgery she will go to rehab.
They should not discharge her if she can not safely care for herself.
If funds are an issue she should discuss with the Social Worker application for Medicaid.
You and or your sister can research on line what services she might qualify for. The Social Worker can or should be able to help with that.
When this was needed for my parents & aunt we put a lock box on her door so caregivers, therapists and home health nurses could come & go.
Mom may be ready for some kind of a life alert necklace in case she falls again or has an emergency. There are also in home cameras to monitor her and you view from your cell phone. My aunt has "Nest" cameras since she is alone after bedtime. Mother has a life alert necklace but she lives in an independent apartment on a senior community. Another idea for your mom.
I pray she recovers well. Is any family in town or closer to her? Would she consider moving closer to you or sister?
Please ask more questions here. We have all been through similar issues and are very willing to help you.
This will make a difference in her overall outcome and future care needs.
Because, if she has osteoporosis so bad that her hip spontaneously broke, she will likely end up immobilized pretty quickly without medical intervention and that isn't going to happen without medical insurance in place.
To bad she is learning the hard way, everything is fine until it isn't.
Find a Medicare broker, they will help you find the best coverage for her needs and that is what's really important now.
When they deem her 'healed' enough, they will release her (usually 2 or 3 days providing there are no other health issues). The social worker can look into Skilled Nursing Facilities where she can receive physical therapy. Things vary on how long she will be there - insurance, progress with therapy, etc. PT can also continue once she goes home; again, it all depends on insurance.
If she does return home, I highly recommend getting her a medical alert necklace. Thankfully, my mom had hers on when she fell the last time while I was at work.
(This is a really quick, short description of what you may go through, but I figured I'd give you an idea of what to expect since you've never been through it before.)
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