A recent question came from some would be homeless “friendly poet” who moved in as a live in, moved her actual homeless bf from the streets and now makes it seem like she’s helping by feeding him illegally through her food stamps for one person. This is literally the type of person you are advertising for.
your mom wants to die at home, and so does everyone. However if she or you don’t have the wherewithal to pay three full time equivalents, if you don’t give up your life for her, it is time for her to be placed so that she’s at least safe. Forget about happy.
This person is just asking a question. I was not aware of a LOT of things until I joined this forum. It sounds to me this person has no funds for an Assisted Living or Memory care. They are trying to find a solution to a problem and you are biting her/his head off.
Bitrob,
States have laws protecting live-ins. They cannot be expected to work 24/7. 40hrs a week anything over is overtime. Must have time off so that means another caregiver. Room and board is part of the contract. You cannot charge rent. They must be paid at least minimum wage. IRS sees them as employees not self-employed so you are responsible for deducting payroll taxes and seeing the correct depts get them.
As said, we are not an employment agency. There maybe someone willing to do what you want but be very careful. We have posts here where the poster cannot get the aides out of their homes once the person they were caregiving for is gone.
If there is no money for care, then you may need to place the person and apply for Medicaid.
I agree with JoAnn, not everyone is familiar what is required when looking for someone to live-in and be caregiver. Offering free room and board may sound like a perfect solution to the family, without realizing what could happen.
Zero income means zero savings. No one can live on zero, especially for personal care products, and if one has a car for gasoline and insurance, etc.
It is against the law to not pay a salary and offer room and board in return for care. Slavery is illegal. Dementia is a serious condition. Your mother needs quality care. There are IRS guidelines for paying an in home caregiver.
Not to mention, dementia is a serious condition and requires care from a person with a certain set of skills! You're not looking for a babysitter and even THEN, you'd have a list of expectations, requirements and references you should demand of the person! This is your MOTHER you need care for, for godsake! People blow my mind when they act like Oh No Biggie, Just An Old Lady With Dementia To Keep An Eye On. And you don't even want to PAY for such services! 🤐 God help your mother. Memory Care Assisted Living residences charge in the neighborhood of $7k a month for elders with dementia and Alzheimer's to be properly cared for 24/7 by a staff. My mother spent upwards of $350k of life savings doing just that but boy, had I known, I could've just put an ad on Craigslist and saved my inheritance. Who knew?
Your mom's too vulnerable for this situation. What happens when she starts doing *not* so well? Maybe contact social services for her county to talk about options or get her on their radar as a vulnerable adult. Also contact her local area's Agency on Aging for resources and answer questions. And, consult with a Medicaid Planner for her state.
But still, your request is out of order. The cg has to be there 24/7; hence they need a room and board. That’s in addition to what you pay them. Plus if anyone does take this, they’re probably a homeless person with typical homeless person issues.
How about you move in there for your inheritance or if not worth it, sell her house and put her in a nice al that takes Medicaid instead of expecting someone to do 200k in work, that of three people, for maybe 20k in so called free rent?
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your mom wants to die at home, and so does everyone. However if she or you don’t have the wherewithal to pay three full time equivalents, if you don’t give up your life for her, it is time for her to be placed so that she’s at least safe. Forget about happy.
Bitrob,
States have laws protecting live-ins. They cannot be expected to work 24/7. 40hrs a week anything over is overtime. Must have time off so that means another caregiver. Room and board is part of the contract. You cannot charge rent. They must be paid at least minimum wage. IRS sees them as employees not self-employed so you are responsible for deducting payroll taxes and seeing the correct depts get them.
As said, we are not an employment agency. There maybe someone willing to do what you want but be very careful. We have posts here where the poster cannot get the aides out of their homes once the person they were caregiving for is gone.
If there is no money for care, then you may need to place the person and apply for Medicaid.
Zero income means zero savings. No one can live on zero, especially for personal care products, and if one has a car for gasoline and insurance, etc.
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But still, your request is out of order. The cg has to be there 24/7; hence they need a room and board. That’s in addition to what you pay them. Plus if anyone does take this, they’re probably a homeless person with typical homeless person issues.
How about you move in there for your inheritance or if not worth it, sell her house and put her in a nice al that takes Medicaid instead of expecting someone to do 200k in work, that of three people, for maybe 20k in so called free rent?