How do I get my husband into a memory care facility when he refuses any form of assistance?

Perhaps the facility would have some recommendations for you. I would think they deal with these situations very often.
Also, if you have kids for support, you may be able to discuss with all of you present. Inform him you're not feeling up to the job-its too much for you, and that you'll visit him every day but that you need the rest. Something along those lines. And bring up all the new friends you'll both make at the facility. Explain all the benefits.

Yes, like BarbBrooklyn suggested, ask the admin at the facility - they've seen it all. On this site I've read how others created a therapeutic fib to get their LOs into the facility: the house has to be treated for mold or an infestation or has a gas leak and we need to go to a hotel/apartment temporarily until it's safe to go home.

Or a friend, neighbor, relative, takes him out for a day while others move his furnishings to the facility (and set up his room as close to how it was at home as possible).

Is he mobile? Is there a chance he will attempt to leave? This also needs to be discussed with the admins.

Georgie, I would ask the social worker at the MC facility what they suggest. They must have dealt with this before.