Mom’s elderly, male neighbor drives her around in her car, as her license revoked 1+ years ago (she won’t see a doctor to be assessed for MCI diagnosis). She is current with car insurance payments. I want to go to local police, but a receptionist who works there also works at the diner Mom goes to, and ‘knows’ Mom. What happens if I call State Police?
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I called the APS investigator today and surprised I got through. told her this has been moms summertime pattern since dad died. It’s so sad. Just no reason for her to live this way. Investigator said she has been calling mom this week to set up a next meeting, but no answer. After hearing from me, she said she would stop by unannounced, tomorrow.
i cannot believe mom would agree to have me write her checks. She doesn’t want me in her house!
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I'm sure you must see that getting mom's car taken away from her - for whatever reason - is not going to stop this alleged financial exploitation from continuing. It will just make it a tiny bit more inconvenient for this elderly man.
If you think there is financial exploitation happening to mom, your best bet is to call adult protective services and explain the situation to them. Or make that phone call to the State Troopers and talk to them about what you're seeing. But, unfortunately, with no proof from you and mom not cooperating with any investigation, my guess is you won't have much luck. If that's the case, your only option might be you will have to go to court and file for guardianship.
I hope you can find some help for mom.
There is no "treatment" for vascular dementia.
Just make sure that she understands that you will not be coming to rescue her when she needs more care.
But if you don't believe me, by all means, call the State Police. If nothing else, they might have an idea of how you can get mom's car away from her if you believe it is too dangerous for her to be driving. But I doubt very much if it will be removed on the basis of this inspection sticker, regardless of how long it's been expired.
I can’t just get her car inspected for her. She is paranoid and I would not be ‘allowed’ to do that for her. She ‘can do it herself’, but doesn’t happen.
In NJ, registration is done yearly. Inspection is every 2 years, I think. If its a brand new car, its 5 years. We do not have to prove an updated inspection to get registered.
Now my brother lives in NC and he is "taxed" for his cars and its quite a lot more than I pay in registration.
So I suppose it depends on where you live how important the actual inspection really is. If you haven't had the car inspected here it means the car isn't registered either.
So nothing will happen to your mom, but her friend might be on the hook for paying a penalty.
I really can't see the State Police getting involved in with uninspected vehicle. If you call them. they will likely tell you to bring the car to be inspected.
I'm sorry if you have already explained this previously, but why don't you want your mom's neighbor to be driving her car? Are you concerned about his driving ability? Maybe if you explain to him that he will be on the hook if they get pulled over for driving with the inspection expired, it might make him more reluctant to do the driving.
Surprised the male neighbor hadn't notice the expired sticker since it is on the front windshield. Now is a good time to go to the inspection stations/garages as the lines are very short.
But you're right, it's really not a big deal.
If the driver is a safe driver I doubt police would bother with it. More important things to do.
Just get the car inspected and move on. This is a very simple fix,
I would bet she renewed the registration and just didn't put the new sticker. Otherwise her insurance would cancel.
NY, for example, registration is for 2 years, but inspection is every year.