Any suggestions on dealing with my own frustrations over my husband’s FT dementia behaviors?

I'd find a good functional medicine Dr. and make sure he doesn't have nutritional deficiencies. Lack of certain minerals will cause pica. And I would find a type of music he likes and play it periodically through out the day. Music is a great adjuster of the mind. Once he gets relief, you do too.

I don't know why my comment posted more than once but I can't delete, so I'm "editing". sorry

Lilla9: An individual with PICA is often prone to eating non food items. However, as your DH is consuming food stuffs constantly, you'll have to secure these items in a better fashion. Also, perhaps you need to give yourself a break by hiring an in home caregiver for a few hours per day.

If he can read, posting a chart near a clock that has the day's schedule might help him. You can tell him to read the chart to see when the next meal is... and use it to remind him of the task on the schedule for each moment. Having a consistent schedule may also help you and him with this challenge.

Better lock up everything and I mean anything he can put in his mouth.

Sometimes it helps to imagine that your husband is someone else. We are sometimes more patient with someone we do not already have a relationship with.

His doctor may have a medication that can help. Pica can be a nutrition deficiency. Or it is a behavior as you think. I would want medical advice. Sadly no simple answer if it is behavior.

Have you heard of Chewelry? It's a chewable necklace an adult can wear to help satisfy the need to chew. Here is a link. Within this link is a direct link to the ARK site that sells various types of Chewelry in different toughness strengths.

https://www.amazon.com/Krypto-Bite-Chewable-Necklace-Jewelry-Lavender/dp/B00S012GSA/ref=sr_1_1_sspa?crid=20FITDLFDBEC&keywords=adult+chew+necklace+dementia&qid=1659742769&sprefix=adult+chew+necklace+dementia%2Caps%2C173&sr=8-1-spons&psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUFKQkU4RUhSWjk5SEQmZW5jcnlwdGVkSWQ9QTAyODQwNDUyMVBGV1FGT1g2UkVWJmVuY3J5cHRlZEFkSWQ9QTAxMTg1NDE0VURFQjZNRkUxUksmd2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGYmYWN0aW9uPWNsaWNrUmVkaXJlY3QmZG9Ob3RMb2dDbGljaz10cnVl

These things won't add calories or exacerbate DHs diabetes. They won't help you deal with the frustration of general caregiving or answering repeated questions all day long, though. You need respite. Get in home caregivers to give you a break or get DH into a daycare program, or consider placement if you're very burned out. It all gets to be too much after a while, even for a person with the patience of Job.

Best of luck.

If you can break his meals up into a lot of mini meals.
So for example if breakfast is cereal, a fruit, juice, coffee
Give him cereal at 8:30
Give him fruit juice at 9:00
Some fruit at 9:30 or 10
A snack at 10:30 or 11
And start all over with lunch at 11:30 or 12
Break lunch into parts as well and dinner do the same.
If you give smaller portions you can make this an all day buffet!
If possible, does he go to an Adult Day Program? This might keep him occupied and it would be a bit easier on you.