Your profile indicates that he has complex nursing needs such as crushed meds into a feeding tube. Respite will need to be done by a proficient nurse and not a med tech which leads me to why you took him home to become a full time caregiver. You most likely will need to pay out of pocket for nursing home respit for this service which will cost thousands out of pocket. CT is expensive which is why I moved my mother away. I do know that you have to spend down to get Medicaid benefits. The state does offer help with respit if you meet certain qualifications. Have you contacted your local aging services or senior center in your town to find out?
Your best bet will be to start calling around for an adult care facility that also provides respite space.
I had to do that when I needed respite care for my mom. Most home agencies aren't looking for a week-long client, they are looking for a long-term client. And there is still a shortage of labor, so you might not even be able to get in-home care very easily, regardless of respite or otherwise.
Start with a local nursing home/in-patient rehab facility near you. Keep in mind you're likely going to have to be VERY proactive in order to get this.
Make sure you get very clear instructions as to what you need to get done before you can place your DH. Depending on what CT state regulations are, don't be surprised if he will, in the least, need an assessment at home before they will consider taking him. By far, that was the *hardest* part of getting respite for my mom. The rehab/nursing home facility she had used did indeed have respite beds, but NYS regulations are that a "needs assessment" has to be done within 30 days before the placement, and in the place where the person currently has a bed...in other words, I had to find a nurse with the proper training and credentials to come to my home and do the assessment. If mom had gone into respite from a hospital, it would have been much easier, because the hospitals employ RN's with those credentials who can perform the assessments. However, there are only 2 nurses in my area that 1) work independently of any hospital or agency (since this was going to be self-pay), 2) have the proper credentials to perform the assessment and 2) will come to the patient's home to DO the assessment.
Also, unless you DH is in hospice, expect to pay for this respite out of your pocket. If your DH has a long-term care insurance plan, they MIGHT pay for it, you will need to read your policy. Even if it says they will pay, double check with a phone call. My mom's policy paid for up to 21 days, but (as we found out when it came to reimbursement), they couldn't be 21 days in the same calendar month, as my mom's respite was. They ended up reimbursing us for half of her out of pocket expenses, which is better than nothing, but still somewhat disingenuous when the person who had sold her the policy told us "21 days of respite will be covered". The cost of mom's respite for the 18 days was over $8,000.
I often chuckle to myself at the posts given to caregivers suffering from burnout, when they get the "just put your LO in respite" answer. While it's a valid answer, at least from my experience, it was pretty damn difficult to make the arrangements. I spent literally hours on the phone trying to find someone to do the assessment.
This is not something we can help you with unless one if our members lives in your area. We are people from all over the US.
This is something you will need to pay for. As far as I know, only Hospice allows for paid Respite care and thats 5 days at a time. Some ALs offer it if they have a bed, same thing with care facilities.
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I had to do that when I needed respite care for my mom. Most home agencies aren't looking for a week-long client, they are looking for a long-term client. And there is still a shortage of labor, so you might not even be able to get in-home care very easily, regardless of respite or otherwise.
Start with a local nursing home/in-patient rehab facility near you. Keep in mind you're likely going to have to be VERY proactive in order to get this.
Make sure you get very clear instructions as to what you need to get done before you can place your DH. Depending on what CT state regulations are, don't be surprised if he will, in the least, need an assessment at home before they will consider taking him. By far, that was the *hardest* part of getting respite for my mom. The rehab/nursing home facility she had used did indeed have respite beds, but NYS regulations are that a "needs assessment" has to be done within 30 days before the placement, and in the place where the person currently has a bed...in other words, I had to find a nurse with the proper training and credentials to come to my home and do the assessment. If mom had gone into respite from a hospital, it would have been much easier, because the hospitals employ RN's with those credentials who can perform the assessments. However, there are only 2 nurses in my area that 1) work independently of any hospital or agency (since this was going to be self-pay), 2) have the proper credentials to perform the assessment and 2) will come to the patient's home to DO the assessment.
Also, unless you DH is in hospice, expect to pay for this respite out of your pocket. If your DH has a long-term care insurance plan, they MIGHT pay for it, you will need to read your policy. Even if it says they will pay, double check with a phone call. My mom's policy paid for up to 21 days, but (as we found out when it came to reimbursement), they couldn't be 21 days in the same calendar month, as my mom's respite was. They ended up reimbursing us for half of her out of pocket expenses, which is better than nothing, but still somewhat disingenuous when the person who had sold her the policy told us "21 days of respite will be covered". The cost of mom's respite for the 18 days was over $8,000.
I often chuckle to myself at the posts given to caregivers suffering from burnout, when they get the "just put your LO in respite" answer. While it's a valid answer, at least from my experience, it was pretty damn difficult to make the arrangements. I spent literally hours on the phone trying to find someone to do the assessment.
Good luck.
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This is something you will need to pay for. As far as I know, only Hospice allows for paid Respite care and thats 5 days at a time. Some ALs offer it if they have a bed, same thing with care facilities.