POA is a tool. I understand that Mom now cannot handle her money so Sis needs to stop Mom from overspending so she can meet her bills.
If Mom does not want sister to move in than sister cannot move in. The POA does not give her that right. Are you sure, though, that sister is moving in to help Mom with her bills. Sounds to me like Mom does not have enough money to meet her bills. By sister moving in she can split the bills with Mom. Meaning, sis pays half the utilities, mortgage, taxes, etc. May be a good thing for Mom because if sis does not move in Mom will lose her home.
Chrissy, your mom is losing her freedom. That's what happens when we lose the ability to take care of our own lives, including our finances.
I would caution you to not be angry with your sister, she is only watching out for your mom.
My mom gets hundreds of dollars of overdraft fees monthly, because she doesn't handle her finances and nobody has any authority to help her. So every month she starts with less and less money. I wish I could stop her, I agree with your sister on this.
Chrissy, if your mom is of sound mind and able to take care of herself, she might want to reconsider your sister being her POA. Sissy is already showing she will do whatever she wants and that is not what a POA is intended for.
On the other hand, is your mom in need of care and sissy is stepping up to provide that care?
I think more information would get you better help. It really depends on the situation whether this is acceptable or not.
Thanks for your response. My mother just have bills like everyone, and my sister feels if my mother have an overdraft, or can’t pay her bills on time all the time, that’s a huge problem! she took my mom debit card and will not give it to her because she say she have no money, and that she will give it back when she get her SS check. My sister is very controlling and my mother doesn’t like it at all, my mother feel like she’s losing her freedom because of it. My mother is in her right mind, the only thing she may need help in is money but that’s it.
Thanks for your answer. My sister is the POA that want to move there. It’s a long story, she’s been trying to move in before she was the POA, but my mother absolutely do not want her there. Can she still move there knowing my mother is not ok with that? I need some honest opinions. Thank you kindly
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If Mom does not want sister to move in than sister cannot move in. The POA does not give her that right. Are you sure, though, that sister is moving in to help Mom with her bills. Sounds to me like Mom does not have enough money to meet her bills. By sister moving in she can split the bills with Mom. Meaning, sis pays half the utilities, mortgage, taxes, etc. May be a good thing for Mom because if sis does not move in Mom will lose her home.
I would caution you to not be angry with your sister, she is only watching out for your mom.
My mom gets hundreds of dollars of overdraft fees monthly, because she doesn't handle her finances and nobody has any authority to help her. So every month she starts with less and less money. I wish I could stop her, I agree with your sister on this.
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On the other hand, is your mom in need of care and sissy is stepping up to provide that care?
I think more information would get you better help. It really depends on the situation whether this is acceptable or not.
she took my mom debit card and will not give it to her because she say she have no money, and that she will give it back when she get her SS check.
My sister is very controlling and my mother doesn’t like it at all, my mother feel like she’s losing her freedom because of it.
My mother is in her right mind, the only thing she may need help in is money but that’s it.