My mom was in the hospital for 6 months, initially for stroke and then she had an aneurysm. She then got bed sores that got infected and died from the infection. Now in all that time my nephew did not go see her, even when I told him I was taking her off life support. He said he couldn't make it there because his car got impounded. I found out that was a lie, he didn't come to her funeral and when she was alive all he did was use her to get a car and pay his bills. My mom didn't have a will and now that she's gone, he gets a share of her estate. His father (my brother) died in 2018. I don't think it's right. He doesn't deserve anything, and I wish there was a way I could stop this from happening. Am I wrong for feeling such anger towards all of this?
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Look at the intestacy order of inheritance in your state, that will tell you who stands to inherit from your mom's estate and in what order.
With your dad having passed, it may be that his estate all passed to her and that would place you, as their child, ahead of your nephew, issuing from your brother, now deceased. I'm sorry that you've had so many deaths in your family, it's very hard. Pls try to be mindful that your nephew may still be struggling with his father's death and couldn't face your mom's, his grandmother's, illness and subsequent death; we all deal with things differently.
Fair or not, when a person passes without a Will, the state laws determine the line of inheritance and there is very little one can do to challenge this. You are in direct line, your nephew is not.
I hope that you find your peace with your profound losses and that the estate settles in a manner that you can find your own peace with. Family death brings out the worst in too many of us and I hope you do all that you can to make peace with the probate process while actively working with an estate attorney to get matters properly settled.
in my experience as being an Executor X 3 and spending way too many hard bench hours sitting in courthouses, it’s not unusual for ownership not to get settled / transferred but for the asset to continue to exist for ages. It blithely stays in the deceased name and continues to get bills for property taxes, get sold at annual tax sale (but usually does not get tax sale redemption unless it has something special abt it) otherwise just sits there becoming blighted for eons. I see these “dead & decaying” old houses regularly in my travels in the Gulf So.
The OP is going to have to actively deal with the legalities of her moms estate; she cannot expect State to do things. Should she not, that nephew of hers can step into the void.
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I had a friend who had a 100k insurance policy with her employer. Her daughter was beneficiary. The friend remarried. It was always thought that out of that 100k, her daughter would pay for her funeral. When the time came, the daughter refused. The husband had no standing because daughter was not under any legal obligation to pay for her Moms funeral out of the insurance policy.
You - as the child (the “issue” of your parents marriage)- are the first and foremost the lineal heir.
Your nephew as moms grandchild is NOT. So just where in all this does he get this idea? He’s BS’ing & trying to bamboozel you in all this. Your brother died years ago; he predeceased his / your mom so has no standing as a direct lineal heir. He died 2018; brothers estate is done.
But exactly what is your moms “estate”. A home? Car(s)? Land? Other types of investments? Just What are the supposed assets??
If she had a life insurance policies those pay whomever named beneficiary. So if mom named only you as the beneficiary on her $5,000 Term Life insurance policy the $5K is yours and yours alone as her beneficiary. On life insurance policies, you file for these on your own to the insurance company, get them whatever they need to process the payout and they have nothing to do with probate if mom named you as beneficiary. They fall outside of probate.
But home, cars, usually mean probate is needed. There are different levels of probate: small estates, Muniment or Title, simple or full. It depends on the assets. Here’s what you can do:
1. Get several copies of her death certificate. Maybe 6.
2. Call probate office for your county or go on line to see what you as the lineal heir need to file to settle the estate from an intestate death.
3. Get the paperwork and fill it out as best as you can. If mom owned a home or a car, you have to find the paperwork as to her ownership. Like title for the car; Release of the Deed of Trust for the home issued when a mortgage was paid off.
If probate asks for your dads death paperwork, you need to look for that as well. If dad died ages ago, and mom got title changed on house or cars over to her name, all you’ll likely need is a xeroxed copy of his death certificate.
If she had no debts (you will need to show this is the situation), you can likely do small estate affidavit, and you can file paperwork at the courthouse to change title on moms home, car, etc to you to. Once title changed to your name, it’s yours and then you can sell or keep car or house. You kinda need to allow for time to do all this as most places require 3 - 6 months post death before anything can be done to change ownership, as this 3-6 months allow for debts to surface.
&. You will need to do something to establish that you are the only lineal heir. Probate court show have info as to what needs to be provided to the court. Like your parents marriage certificates & birth certificates of each child & if if any of the kids died then their death certificate. If parents only lived in 1 city or county it’s pretty straightforward. If not, there are attorneys who specialize in lineal and it’s not expensive but not a DIY. Whatever the case you are moms lineal heir.
I’m kinda concerned that grandson somehow got grandma to be a cosigner on his car / credit cards / other lending. He sounds like a real POS who would do this. If this at all happened, those could end up being debts of moms estate. If you find that there are bills in moms name showing up for stuff or debt collectors seeking payments from mom for stuff that is obviously nephews STOP WHATEVER you are doing and find a Probate attorney who does litigation ASAP. This all has to be cleared up to ever get through probate. It is imho not ever a DIY to deal with.
So mom was in a hospital for 6 months? An actual hospital? 6 months?Or was she in a hospital and then went from the hospital to a skilled nursing facility (like a NH) or a hospice facility or an long term acute care facility?? How was her care paid for?? Was Medicaid used?
If you mom had a will she'd likely have left it to you and your brother with the stipulation that if one preceeds her in death that either the survivor inherits everything or the survivor gets half and the children of the dead sibling split the other half.
Since she had no will, you inherit the whole thing.
I think a 1-time consult with an estate attorney would answer your question better and more accurately. If it costs $250-$350 to figure out how to stop him from getting anything is it worth it to you?
Your Mom died intestate, no will. You need to become the Administrator so you can handle her finances. You will get a short certificate for this. All bills, debts and leans need to be satisfied. You do everything an Executor would but...the State determines who inherits. Children first, grands second. Like said, you need to find out how your State works. Will you as the only living child receive the estate or is there a trickling effect that your brothers children get his portion of the estate.
Yes, you have to let it go. Mom just wasn't that important to her nephew. She should have had a Will.
Money goes around the world, to the deserving & the non-deserving. Don't let it eat you up.
But do get some the facts.
Without a will, who is handling your Mom's estate?