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Leeslittlelady Asked November 2022

Scared someone will take my grandma. Any advice?

My grandfather is declining rapidly and I have been caring for them in my home. Grandma has dementia and requires 24/7 care. He put my name on bank accounts and I am scared that if something happens to him they will take her from me just because of the money and she is not my blood GMA. They would put her in a home. Can they fight for assets if there is no will but the money to care for her is in my name? I don’t want anyone to take her from me.

Fawnby Nov 2022
Are they legally married? Will she get a pension when he dies? Do you have medical POA for both of them? Do they pay you rent to live with you - in other words, are they your tenants? Lots of legal questions to be answered here. Please look into them in order to protect them and yourself.

Daughterof1930 Nov 2022
Your grandfather is long overdue to get his documents in order so his wishes can and will be followed, including for providing for his wife. Please take him to an elder care attorney to get documents such as POA, an advance directive, and will completed. “Something” will happen to him, the euphemism we all use for dying, and dying without a will can open up his money to anyone coming after it. And it takes money to provide care for grandma.

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lealonnie1 Nov 2022
Who is "they" that you refer to? "They will put her in a home".....
"They will take her from me just because of the money and she is not my blood GMA." So who's "they"?

If this is not your blood grandmother and there is lots of money in their accounts, you may indeed have worries ahead of you if there are relatives to potentially inherit these funds when grandpa passes. Whoever has POA for grandma can place her in a Memory Care Assisted Living facility if they want to, but that'd spend her money VERY quickly.

So, not knowing or wanting to know all the details of this situation, you may have your hands full coming up here soon. I'm sure "they" can fight for assets if there is no will in place, but if funds are in your name, "theyd" have to get grandpa to handle the finances. It sounds like there is A LOT more to this story than the bit of info you're giving us here!

Good luck to you.

JoAnn29 Nov 2022
Who is they? Unless someone puts in a complaint with APS I don't see how anyone could take grandma away. No one needs to know your not blood. If you want to take care of her do it. Even though accts are in ur name, keep good records. Also remember when he passes, you need to get their SS changed. There will be less because he died.

I hope you have POA for both of them.

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