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Mammajae Asked November 2022

How do I get my MIL to bed?

She is 82, with advanced Parkinson's and dementia. I have to move her from living room to her bedroom. Sometimes she doesn't walk at all. Most times she is frozen, standing at her walker. When she does walk she takes little, tiny steps. To make her move, I gently push her. I hate doing this.

poodledoodle Nov 2022
I have a lot of experience with this: Parkinson’s, freezing up, small steps.

We found a great way to help walking and it’s safer than always using the walker. Sometimes the walker is a good idea.

Here’s the method:
Your MIL walks with you, almost like a tango dance. The helper (you) walks carefully backwards. Your MIL walks forward with her hands on your shoulders. You keep both your hands under her armpits, in order to hold onto her in case she falls. And then you walk together like this. When she gets frozen, you continue slowly walking backwards: her body will naturally follow. If she’s really frozen, you can march in place, even saying out loud “1,2,1,2”, as she feels the rhythm of your feet. At some point she’ll get un-stuck again and continue walking. You can also lift your MIL’s body slightly upwards, with your hands under her armpits, and then continue walking backwards. This sometimes also helps to get unfrozen.

Of course this method only works if she’s still mobile.

For us, this works really well with my uncle. We go almost everywhere like this, even to the car (and we put the walker in the car, in case we want to use the walker later, at an appointment).

vegaslady Nov 2022
You should learn more about Parkinson's. Many Parkinson's patients have freezing episodes and take small steps ( called festering). Please don't push her. There are numerous ways to get get her to break that frozen state or sense of being glued to the floor. You can gently have her move side to side and then go forward. Or count out loud 1. 2. 3 and move forward on 3. She might move to music or a metronome. Google how to help a Parkinson's patient start to move
when frozen.

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PeggySue2020 Nov 2022
I’d utilize a wheelchair.

MACinCT Nov 2022
You should time her medications to when you need her to move. If you are unaware of these medications then it is time to make an appointment with a neurologist versed in Parkinsons. Be aware that these meds diminish over time. Another option is to hire your caregiver later in the day since hoyu cannot move her or trsnsfer alone.

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