I need to get my 92 yr old mom into AL. Any advice?
She is almost completely blind and I can’t continue to care for her. She will have to be self pay until her money runs out, maybe 3 yrs. I don’t trust a lot of advisors, they seem to want to steer you toward the most expensive places.
Why do you need an advisor? Go visit some ALs locally and find one you like that is willing to take mom, and that can provide adequate care to meet her needs. At 92, if she has enough money to private pay for 3 years, that may be enough. If not, you can apply for Medicaid once her funds run out and get her placed in Skilled Nursing. I suggest you find the nicest AL you can where she'll be comfy and have the best quality of life while she's still living....thats what money should be used for. My parents did that very thing and I'm glad they did.
These places get commission thats why they steer u to the most expensive. This site has the ability to give you info. You put in your address and it gives you places to look into.
I hope since Mom is losing her sight you are finding her help in being able to live with it. Your county should have a Disabilities department. See what services they can provide. Your State should have a Department for the blind. I see no reason that she can't go into an AL if she has no problem with her ADLs. She should be able to get around if she gets help in learning how.
Have you tried a different company to help you ? Be specific.. about your needs and cost.
I used a company called care patrol , a franchise to place both my in laws, and my mom. I used an independent in another state previously for my mom. I found their help invaluable…
What care does mom need? Tour AL facilities in your area and ask questions about the type of care that could/would be provided. If she needs medical care. or more care than AL could provide then you will be looking at Skilled Nursing facilities. Contact your Area Agency on Aging or your local Senior Center. Either may provide you with some guidance in searching for a place that would meet her needs. You do not mention if dementia is present. If so Memory Care would be the option that would provide her with better care.
The best, most honest and objective reviews and recommendations will come from Nextdoor.com in the area where you plan to move your Mom. These are the non-anonymous neighbors of that community. Make sure the facility accepts Medicaid and has a continuum of care (from AL to MC to LTC to hospice). Consider faith-based, non-profit places, even if she is not of that faith. They are often supported by a larger organization and see the care as part of a mission. My MIL is in Presbyterian Homes in MN, which has had an excellent reputation for decades. She is on Medicaid in LTC and gets wonderful care.
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I hope since Mom is losing her sight you are finding her help in being able to live with it. Your county should have a Disabilities department. See what services they can provide. Your State should have a Department for the blind. I see no reason that she can't go into an AL if she has no problem with her ADLs. She should be able to get around if she gets help in learning how.
I used a company called care patrol , a franchise to place both my in laws, and my mom. I used an independent in another state previously for my mom. I found their help invaluable…
Tour AL facilities in your area and ask questions about the type of care that could/would be provided.
If she needs medical care. or more care than AL could provide then you will be looking at Skilled Nursing facilities.
Contact your Area Agency on Aging or your local Senior Center. Either may provide you with some guidance in searching for a place that would meet her needs.
You do not mention if dementia is present. If so Memory Care would be the option that would provide her with better care.