My dad moved in and we set up an apt for him 4 years ago when my mom passed. My brother lives in another state and refuses to let him stay there or setup a space for him.
Fast forward untill a few months ago my dad had a UTI now has foley and catheter he can’t go into a home because of the 60 month look back so we brought him home for a 3 month look back until Medicaid until approved.
The thing is my brother refuses to come and help or bring my dad back to my brother's and my dad won’t go.
Since my brother got his inheritance he says he spent it all and has no money, no job and is mentally ill, but he can physically do things. He won’t come to me and give me and my family a reprieve.
Can I sue my brother or put lien on his house for not contributing? I spent most of time helping my dad causing me to not able to work since my brother will not contribute?
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And now "the state," Medicaid, which is funded by taxpayers like me, is supposed to pay for your dad's health care as he ages and dies. I have a moral problem with this. "The state" is me. I scrimped and saved and worked hard all of my life so that I'd be able to pay MY OWN bills for care, and now I'm supposed to pay for your dad's care also.
If you want to sue your brother, be advised that a lawyer costs between $350 and $500 per hour. Good luck.
Sadly, I’m watching my parents’ money fly out of their savings account right now because they have to spend A LOT of money in cash to get decent caregivers. My parents’ chose not to protect their assets or home so my siblings and I will not see anything. But we all worked hard and saved for our retirements so none of us need an inheritanc to live our day to day lives. It would have been nice to be able to help out my grandkids a bit for their college years but that is not meant to be. So not to worry, we are not taking anything from the taxpayers.
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Conversely why should taxpayers have to pay to warehouse old people in facilities?
Sounds like you're living to regret that decision huh? Hopefully you can get him placed sooner than later.
No you can't sue your brother or put a lien on his house. Going to have to patiently wait is out. I sure hope you have a written agreement with dad for rent/household expenses or you will experience new problems with medicaid that IMHO should not be an expense taken on by myself and other taxpayers because you and brother planned poorly for dad and got greedy.
I don’t need a written agreement with my dad he can stay as long as he likes.
Who wants to be in a nursing home they are horrible to live in that’s why he’s here with me.
when a family member says they will help and doesn’t that’s messed up. I’m left holding the bag for time and money.
This is what happens when you practice fraud, it bites you.
Your brother has made it clear he won't help. Believe him when he says he won't.
I just hope the waiting game goes quickly. Does dad have some other form of income? To tide him over?
I don't mean to be rude, you already know you made a bad decision--maybe your choice to take money now will serve as a warning to others.
and he’s living in a separate apt in the house. When he was recently in the hospital for 3 months my brother didn’t even call or come to visit when I needed help setting up paperwork and to take him back home. That’s not a brother but I see my dad and him are similar in personalities.
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