Anyone else notice that when you get old and one partner develops health problems, people begin to stay away?

Problems especially those that need constant attention or those involving mental health, you seem to become persona non-grata? People are uncomfortable if they visit because they are afraid of being offensive. Children and relatives stay away for fear they will be asked to help, and I understand, because they have their own lives and their own problems, and I don't expect anyone else to assume mine. I'm O.K. with that. What I really miss is companionship which my mentally impaired spouse cannot give. I crave having a conversation about anything and everything and get reasonable responses. Sometimes people will call (out of obligation and not, I suspect, out of genuine concern) and after a few pleasantries, invent some excuse for having to hang up! I am blessed to have my wife's brother and his wife living next door. The brother is pretty much an invalid with obesity and numerous other ailments that require his wife to wait on him, hand and foot! She and I have become best friends because we can share each other's problems and provide solace when we need a shoulder to cry on. She is 80 and I am 83 and I have grown to love that woman so much. I couldn't have made it the past years without her support! I have conceded my freedom and ambitions and hopes and dreams, but I have to have some feeling of concern and understanding and knowing that at least someone gives a damn!🥰