I had the best mom until I didn’t. Assisted living question. Any advice?

Mom, 80 y/o: Early slow onset dementia, mobility issues, was in an assisted living facility, then they raised the rate 24.7%, in addition being short staffed resulting in sub par care. We moved her to another facility a couple days ago ( happy new year), and the transition has not been good. She passed the “ assessment “ with flying colors , but a call from the nurse today informed me that she isn’t able to transition from chair to wheelchair and it’s taking two cna’s to move her. I spoke with the nurse at length, and while she said she thinks it’s behavioral, but if it doesn’t improve, they’ll have no choice but to give us 30 days notice to move her to another facility.

Mom was great growing up, but the past 10 years or so she’s become hateful , argumentative, and often plays the wounded duck. In her defense, the place she used to be at let her lay in bed almost 24/7, and this new place is getting her up ( at least into a chair), so in think she didn’t have the stamina to do even the slightest thio like sitting up for a few hours. I don’t know…. I just don’t.

I’m scared to death they’ll make her move, again. I can’t have her live with me ( tried that, no Gouda). We can’t afford a nursing care facility. She’s slowing spending more than she has coming in. I’m afraid of it comes to it, they’ll take her house to pay for costs…. Trouble is, I live in her house.

I’m tired, scared, and feeling selfish, and just want it all to go away…

thanks for listening to this jumbled mess of word vomit.