This is my first post. Please forgive me if I sound ridiculous. My mother who has undiagnosed dementia lives in AL. She wants to come to my house to make king cakes for a party at the facility. Enough for 60 residents and their families!! She won’t be able to do this. I refuse to do a marathon bake off. There are no bakeries in town and where we live Walmart doesn’t carry king cakes. I checked on line and the cost of ordering cakes is way out of line. She has always entertained and was very good at it. It was her time in the sun. Unfortunately now she she has forgotten how to cook and bake. In fact hadn’t cooked in a few years. When at home lived on sandwiches and cereal. I had her for dinner and she wanted to make the mashed potatoes. She couldn’t remember and it broke her heart. So what do I do?
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Keep your boundaries. You’ll get a LOT of practice! 🤣
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1. I'm sorry my stove isn't working right now, and we're waiting on a part.
2. The facility won't allow king cakes because they don't want someone to choke on the little baby inside.(that one's probably true, and not a fiblet)
3. I just don't have the time in my schedule right now for all that baking, but why don't we go to the store and buy some cupcakes in Mardi Gras colors?
4. The facility said they would prefer little cupcakes that can just be picked up and they don't want to have to worry about having to slice up a cake and plate it.
You get the idea. Good luck.
Next time mom wants you to do something you just dont have the energy or time to do it will be easier to say no.
Do you think the AL expects this? They don't, this is probably all Mom. Don't give her any excuses, just say "No Mom its not possible" Maybe talk to the Nurse and ask her to tell Mom there is no need for King Cakes.
Just thinking, yeast bread. You have to let it rise, punch it down, fill and form your circle, rise again and bake. Even one is a lot of work.
1 King cake made by you and mom.
Order a pastry or even a cake and have it decorated with Purple, Gold and Green. That can be cut and served to the residents.
Tell mom that due to Health Department regulations foods made in an un approved, un inspected kitchen can not be served at the facility to residents and their families.
Not everything can be fixed and some things just have to be acknowledged as something you cannot do anymore.
If your Mom is able to come to your own home without it causing her to be upset afterward, with it being a nice day, and you can find a recipe, then have her come over and you cook dinner for the family and help her make the cake.
Compromise is often the best we get in life.
Has to be heartbreaking, and I am so sorry.
I love Caluda’s King Cake! Yummy!
I have friends who still talk about King Cakes from their childhood days from McKenzie’s bakery! LOL 😆
My oldest daughter shops at the Whole Foods store on Broad St. I miss the smaller Whole Foods store that was on Esplanade Ave.
Do you buy the stuffed King Cake with cream cheese or are you a purist and buy plain? I like both!