Mother in law is 97. She lives with us. She is almost always cold even if it's 80 degrees in her room. Constantly telling us to turn up heat. Doesn't believe the temp gauges in her room. Argues and if I put the child lock on she turns it off and then the room can get too cold. What to do?
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A few things you can try.
Warmer clothing. Polar fleece tops and pants. Oddly they keep you warmer without making you sweat and without the added weight of some other fabrics. And if the fabric gets wet (accident or a spill) it does not absorb the liquid as rapidly.
A hat. A knit cap or baseball cap will help the head retain warmth.
A lap blanket.
Place an electric space heater in her room. Make sure it is secure and away from any window treatments, bedding, clothing. You could put it on a timer if you want so it goes off after she is asleep and comes on as she wakes.
Many electric blankets have timers on them and will shut off after a while and do not have the electric blanket in contact with skin.
BUT do NOT use an electric heating pad if she has an neuropathy (a friends husband badly burned his legs because he could not feel the heat)
the high temp is not "dangerous" or "unhealthy" for her, she really is cold it is due to her ages, her circulation, underlying medical conditions and possibly even medication side effects.
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Her internal thermostat is working differently due to her body function.
She is literally freezing.
Help her by finding comfortable layering clothing. Heated blankets and throws are wonderful as are similarly themed battery operated heated jackets.
Let her be comfortable.
Lots of good suggestions here but mine is: Electric blankets are a miracle. They are very light. Get an electric lap blanket, and electric blanket for her bed (with a quilt / light blanket over it to retain heat).
She will still complain though... you are amazing for taking her into your home.
Mom would be bundled up wearing thermo under garments, a long sleeve shirt, sweater, cotton scarf around her neck, long pants, knee socks, and shoes.
Dad would be wearing.... well, summer shorts, no shirt, and sandals.
Make sure your Mom has an undershirt/thermo shirt that is tucked into her slacks, tucking the shirt in makes a big difference. Same with wearing pj's, have the top tucked into the pants unless Mom is wearing an undershirt, tuck in the undershirt. Wearing thin cotton socks to bed is also a huge help. Fuzzy socks tend to make it difficult to turn over, it's like being stuck in velcro.
Add to Mom's bedroom one of those long floor heaters which are tip proof. It acts like an electric baseboard. Keep it away from the bedding and curtains. Then you can turn down the heat for the rest of the house, especially at night.
Long time ago our grandmothers use to bring to bed one of those orange hot water bottles. Some elders even wore bed hats to keep warm.
I was once dx with Reynard's Disease. I suspect just poor circulation.
I find if I lose heat it's hard to get back - I stay cold for ages. So I need get warm & then KEEP it!
A woolly hat keeps bodyheat in well - has been a life-changer.
Can't recommend more highly.
No, it's not unhealthy to have the temp at 80 or higher around her. In tropical areas of the world, it's common to be in 80s or 90s everyday. The bodies adjust.
After being "the hot one" of the two of us, my 65-yr old husband has started creeping up the temp in our home during the day in the winter. It's now at 72 degrees. He still wears multiple layers of clothes and complains about being cold. He has a space heater in his home office. He is a perfectly healthy man who still plays hockey 3 mornings a week, kite ski's on our lake on weekends, and is not skinny by any means. So, it must be a circulatiion or internal thermostat issue.
Maybe consider silk long johns for your Mom... we both have a set. Very lightweight and comfortable.
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