I am a caregiver to a cancer patient. Her husband expects the same care I provide for his wife for himself, but im payed for only wife. How do I handle?
If you are working for an agency, then you talk to your supervisor who can make it clear to the husband what he is paying for.
If your private, it should have been made plain when you were hired what your duties are. That if being paid to care for the wife, thats the only person you care for. If the husband needs help, then your paid xtra. I agree, always have it in writing. There are templates on line.
It would be nice if we knew what he expects u to do for him. Like said, if you getting her something to eat you can get him something. But if he thinks your there to be at his beck and call, you need to tell him that he is not part of your duties.
You simply make it clear that you are there to care for the wife if that is what your contract stipulates. It is very important, as others have said, what duties you were hired for be stipulated in writing and very clear to the recipient/s of that care. Are you working for an agency? This is a problem to take to them, if so. If not it is for you to sit with the two people you are caring for (or to their proxy who hired you) and find out what their expectations are and if you can or cannot fulfill them. NOW. Or ASAP. Wish you the very best. Get it in writing so it can be pointed out. There may be some forgetfulness around the house.
You need a written contract, and they need to understand that your contract is per person. It's very easy for lines to be blurred in your situation, and that's why you must clarify in writing.
You need a detailed care plan so everyone knows what to expect. With some tasks it makes sense that he is included - for example it would be silly to prepare a meal for just your client without making enough for two. So what exactly is he asking of you that crosses the line?
In general, when you start a job, the scope of duties is agreed upon. If you are being asked to do more, you tell the employer that THAT is not what was agreed on, and you won't be doing it.
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If your private, it should have been made plain when you were hired what your duties are. That if being paid to care for the wife, thats the only person you care for. If the husband needs help, then your paid xtra. I agree, always have it in writing. There are templates on line.
It would be nice if we knew what he expects u to do for him. Like said, if you getting her something to eat you can get him something. But if he thinks your there to be at his beck and call, you need to tell him that he is not part of your duties.
It is very important, as others have said, what duties you were hired for be stipulated in writing and very clear to the recipient/s of that care.
Are you working for an agency? This is a problem to take to them, if so. If not it is for you to sit with the two people you are caring for (or to their proxy who hired you) and find out what their expectations are and if you can or cannot fulfill them. NOW. Or ASAP.
Wish you the very best. Get it in writing so it can be pointed out. There may be some forgetfulness around the house.
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In general, when you start a job, the scope of duties is agreed upon. If you are being asked to do more, you tell the employer that THAT is not what was agreed on, and you won't be doing it.